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New here....need advice
| Thu, 10-08-2009 - 3:19pm |
I've been having an affair with a MM for a year now. (I'm also married) We've always been attracted to one another, and one day we started flirting and one thing led to another. His marriage was on the rocks because his wife found out he had an affair with someone from work. ( He's also had a one night stand...wife doesn't know about that or me.) We both stated it was a physical thing only....he said he wanted to end it over the summer because it was weighing on him mentally. I agreed to that, but then I found out he was on an affair dating website. When I confronted him, he told me he's been on it for months and never met anyone from it. He said he'd delete the account....which he did. He claims he doesn't want to have the affair anymore, yet came to me a few days ago and we ended up having sex. I can't take this....yes, I want it...no, I don't crap. It's obvious to me he still wants sex. BTW...he and his wife have seen a lawyer and are staring the divorce process. (Because of the other affair) I'd just like some advice from women who have been there.....

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You seem to need some "tough love".
"That's true about getting a NSAA from someone else, but he says he doesn't care, just wants the sex then asks me the other day if I'm talking or seeing anyone else. Why? Thought he didn't care??"
He has told you all you need to know. He wants sex PERIOD That is all you are to him and all you will ever be is another notch on his belt. believe what he has said to you that you are just sex for him.
It does not matter WHY he asked you if you are seeing someone else, but if you really need to know why then I can give you a good guess. He is a man marking his territory. Few men like to share women. He needs that sense of control that you are HIS and not with another man. He does not care about you in a relationship way and has made that clear. It's not like this man is playing games with you telling you he loves you or anything like that. He is being striaght forward with what he wants.
Okay so he was upright with you about his feelings in the first place so I will give him that.
Jilly I think you need to put more value on your worth. You deserve to be treated better.
Frankly men like him should stick to escorts--then they get to pay for the privilege of going home without the emotional entanglements that an affair, esp one that has been ongoing a year--can bring.
I wish you well.
How old are you?
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