New name, but same old story

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Registered: 08-26-2008
New name, but same old story
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Tue, 08-26-2008 - 10:36am

Hello wonderful ladies and gents. I used to be hisgirl_forever, but hated the lame a$$ name so I just changed it. I hope everyone is doing well today. As far as my situation goes, I am leaving my H tomorrow. There is no point in staying anymore. There is just no way things between us will work out. About 3 weeks ago I told him I was leaving and he begged , plead, and cried trying to convince me he'd change. Guess what, It's not happening and I feel exhausted both physically and mentally.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 11:59am
Good luck transitioning to your new life, whatever happens with you and AP.
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 12:21pm

Hi tennisfan08,

I made it clear that my M was over and H moved out last November. I have finally received a "separation" agreement from him and his lawyer. It was a joke so I've just hired my own lawyer as I just want what's fair.

I have several moments of indecision, all the time. I am deeply in love with my AP/BF and yes, eventually I would wish that we end up together in RL. He is M, so I am not hanging my hat on it. Having said that however, we have just had a period of NC for the last three weeks and he has been absolutely wonderful throughout. I think he's really starting to look at his life, I know he loves me back.

I feel up and I feel down...I feel good and I feel bad. The A itself is a roller coaster, my separation is a roller coaster but, I am hanging in and getting through each day...one day at a time. I hope you hang in and do the same...I've been told that it WILL get better :)

Take care of yourself,

benska

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 12:39pm

I'm new to this board, and wanted to say 'hello'.

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 12:59pm

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:03pm

Thanks bengalcats,


This is really inspiring. I am very happy for you and AP. I really needed to hear this today.

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:27pm

Hi tennisfan08.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:51pm

Bengalcats -


You are new here - I think?? ;)

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:58pm

Greetings, Tgr!

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 2:13pm

LOL - Ok deal!!!

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 8:07pm

I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way, that things work out the best way possible for you.


Keep us posted!

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