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Registered: 06-19-2013
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Wed, 06-19-2013 - 5:29pm

Hi all, this is my first port. I used to participate in Doccool (anyone?)

I just finished a very difficult relationship with a SM, and I wanted to start something new. So I knew this other SM online (his Facebook says he's married, he told me he's separated,that she cheated on him, but his "wife" liked a pic of him from 2 days ago...so no clue).

I told him I wanted to meet him, he agreed to meet next week, but I don't think I can make it. He seems a great guy, but it'sme the one who writes him first. He seems uninterested? Yet he told me he wanted to meet...

I don;t want to be the one who chases, but I don't want to stop contact with him either, because I'm already attracted to him. He knows I'm married, and he told me he's never been in this situation, so I guess he might feel uncomfortable? He told me he was fine with this, and given the fact he;s not oficially divorced...I just don't know what to do. Should I continue sending him emails? I just don't want to be the one who chases, but he seems very calm...?

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Registered: 06-10-2013
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Wed, 06-19-2013 - 6:49pm

 There could be many reasons why he doesn't reach out first. If he is worried you might be with H?  If MM doesn't hear from me for a few days I get a call and or a text making sure I am okay.  I am very much wrong in this I am sure but if I send a text and hear nothing backthat day as soon as I know everything & everyone is ok I am a B .Even 

more so when I was dating a single man it takes seconds to send a text or email, if they don't have time to say hi or see how things are well good luck getting me to find time . I Explain there making me feel like I am chasing them & how much I distaste it if you could spend hours texting me to get me but can't find a few minutes on me after you know you have me. Well to me there all about the chase and I want & need more then that. I maybe very wrong in my thinking on this but that is my pov.

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Registered: 06-19-2013
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Wed, 06-19-2013 - 8:00pm

Hi!!

I only met this guy 2 days ago, and we still haven;t met in person. so, this is very recent. I guess I shouldn't email him anymore, if he;s not interested, right? I mean, this is a bad start...right?

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Registered: 06-10-2013
In reply to: coffeegirl1
Wed, 06-19-2013 - 9:58pm

I'd wait and see if he emails you back, if he does go from there if he doesn't well I am sure there is something you can take away from this as a leason learned.  2 days is quick to know a personality & if it's something you will match well with. 

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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Thu, 06-20-2013 - 10:49am
You have already agreed to meet next week. That so far, seems like he is interested to me. I am not sure why he isn't reaching out to you first, but I would say, step back a little. If he wants to talk to you, he will get in touch. Relax and go with the flow.

 

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Registered: 06-19-2013
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Thu, 06-20-2013 - 3:35pm
I sent him an email yesterday afternoon but he didn't reply, so I guess he was very busy, uninterested, or maybe he just found someone else, or maybe he is back with his ex. Who knows...I won't make any move, but I don't have much hope either ugh
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: musiclover12
Thu, 06-20-2013 - 4:12pm

Maybe the "separation" is in his mind and everything he said to you about his DW is a lie--if they were actually separated (and to me that means not living together), doesn't it seem odd that she'd be "liking" his FB posts like they were great friends?  If you just got out of a difficult situation, I don't know why you'd want to get back into another one.

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Registered: 06-25-2013
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Tue, 06-25-2013 - 8:55am

Hey forgetmenot,

yes I use to be on doccool. Haven't found another forum like it. I learned a lot from it.

Has he contacted you since? Perhaps he's alittle overwhelmed at the moment what with so much on his plate with his separation and stuff. Give him space.

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Registered: 06-19-2013
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Sun, 07-07-2013 - 9:04pm

Hi there! Well, I have news! I just received an email for this new guy, after almost 2 weeks! Actually, he never replied to my last email...so I gave up on him, sadly, because I really liked him!

He just sent me an email saying he was seeing someone he met, but it's not working for him. He apologizes for being silent, and asks me how I am doing...

I don;t know what to say to him! I don't want to seem desperate. what if he stops replying me again? Also, he preferred to meet the other lady before me...that makes me feel kinda sad.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated ;)

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Registered: 06-19-2013
In reply to: forgetmenot75
Sun, 07-07-2013 - 9:25pm

I just replied to his email. I said I was nicely surprised to see his email, and that I was curious to see what happened. I don't know if he'll reply back, I'm tired of playing games. I really really like him. Ugh, I only hope he replies. He's been online in a dating site, so I'm probably not his first option again. This sucks ugh