New with a question :)

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Registered: 11-24-2009
New with a question :)
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Tue, 11-24-2009 - 11:35pm

I am a married woman who is involved with a now single man. He has been single for not quite a year.


My question is for any men out there or any women who are the single ones in a relationship with a married person....how do you deal with the fear that your single person will find someone who is also single and leave you?

~Layla~

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 1:44pm
Having an A with a SM can be frustrating when they start asking for more and you really cant give at this point of time.They can be going around,who knows and showing you your commitment etc. but come on,single guys do sleep around ( i am not saying yours is,just my general opinion).
There is an occasional poster ,you may want to read his posts.they are interesting.he is a SM in A with MW for many many years.i forget his title name but someone else here may remember.
Its not that all SM are going around as dating for them is also tough once they go out and especially have you to compare the others with!
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Registered: 06-27-2006
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 1:52pm

Hi Layla,

I am a MW involved with a SM. My SM, like yours, swears that he is happy and content with the situation as it is and because of how he feels about me, he is willing to accept it for what it is.

I just accept that he may decide that he wants someone who can be with him openly and fully and if so, that is his right. It would hurt, but he gets to do that, since there are no guarantees that I will leave my marriage. How that would impact our relationship I do not know, he has always said that no matter what we would always be friends, since we were friends before deeper feelings developed.

Now, one difference between us, is that we have not gone PA, we almost did, but when my H found out my EAP was in town, he was very angry. After that my EAP and I both decided it was wiser to not take it further at that point. We have kept to that.

Best of luck to you.

MAM

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Registered: 11-24-2009
Sun, 11-29-2009 - 11:09pm

I would really like to get the single mans perspective on this. I think it could give me some insight into my single man's head.


~Layla~
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Registered: 11-24-2009
Sun, 11-29-2009 - 11:20pm
How does your MM deal with you being approached by other men?
~Layla~

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