New to this site - sharing my story

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Registered: 08-15-2003
New to this site - sharing my story
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Fri, 08-15-2003 - 11:09am
Hi! I am a newbie to this website. I joined because who is there to talk to when you are having a EMA? I haven't even told my best friend. I am writing here because I just want support and the knowledge that others have feelings outside their marriage. I have been married for 12 years. I am in inside sales so I meet men across the states. My first affair was in 1994. The man lived in another state. I got to travel to see him. We had an excellent few days together but when I went home, he couldn't handle seeing my wedding rings. The next was in 1996, lived in another state. We saw each other alot. This one ended because I got pregnant (by my H). For the next several years my H suffered from depression and surviving by keeping the house going and taking care of our son was all I had time for. Things have been ok. Who's life is perfect right? I met a younger guy, in another state and we have cyber sex via IM. He has turned out to be a good guy friend also because we talk about everything. Lately I have found out that he is doing some things I don't approve of so I am not so excited about the prospect of sleeping with him anymore. Well, in the meantime I have IMd a coworker for the past two years, also in another state. I have always known there was potential but I have always kept it general. We always had a joke about how many beers we would owe each other if he ever came down here. Well, he came down here. Only me and him went out. I thought, ok, if we connect, I will only do anything above the waist. Of course, that didn't happen. We had sex and it was GREAT! Man he is good. We are both married and don't plan on leaving our spouses but we are having fun right now and I really really like it. Funny how I always find a guy in another state, but lucky because I don't think I could do this locally on a continous basis. Sometimes I think I am a sex addict. I like to flirt. I do like sex. I can't seem to not have an affair. Anyway, that is my story. I would like to hear other people's stories and how EMA affects their emotions.
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Registered: 07-20-2003
Fri, 08-15-2003 - 11:28am
hi slyone, and welcome. You are right about not having anyone you can talk to during an A, I do confide in my best friend, but some things I won't even tell her. I've been involved in my A for about 5 months, this is the second A that I've had and believe it or not...with the same man. He and I also had a affair (that ended horribly might I add) back in 1991. We hadn't been in contact or even seen one another until several months ago. Neither of us intend on leaving our current relationships, though we don't talk ALOT on this subject...I just know that it's just not an option for me at this point. Me and MM have really progressed alot in a short time, talking about our feelings and love and such. I say in a short time, but I've known this man since I was 16 and even snuck around and saw him at that time, until I got caught and had to stop (he was 23) so...we have alot of history and I guess waiting 18 years to tell someone you love them really isn't that short of a time period...lol. I have such mixed emotions at different times though, and sometimes I just don't know what to do with them either. I guess after lurking here and reading so many posts, I've decided that all of that goes right along with having an EMA. You will learn alot here, I know I sure have, there's alot of ladies here with alot more experience that always seem to give good advice. It's funny you think you are a sex addict...sometimes I think that too...lol, and I too just love to flirt, etc...just makes for a more enjoyable day!! << I don't know what's wrong with me!! Anyway, that's a little about my story, I'm sure we'll be reading more about each other soon!! Good Luck and Hugs to You.