newbie to the board, any advice?

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Registered: 04-17-2009
newbie to the board, any advice?
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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 8:40pm

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Registered: 02-14-2009
Fri, 04-17-2009 - 9:05pm

kacee-


Each relationship is different.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 5:01pm

I don't automatically believe he is "playing you". Although some guys are, I don't think they all are.

I think you're still in the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship, when you're floating and on that 'ole chemical high when you see him. It's only been three months. That's why it's enough for you right now - I know, it feels wonderful and if they could bottle that stuff I'd be first in line! I think as time goes on, when you're single and he's not, and you're alone nights and weekends and he's not, you will start to feel very shortchanged and frustrated.

But that's then - this is now. For this moment, if it's working for you, and you're both happy and communicating, then maybe it's OK for you - for now. You won't be leaving anytime soon anyway - you're not unhappy.

As time goes on you may have to reassess, depending on how you're both feeling. If it turns into a complete dead end and it becomes apparent he may never leave his marriage, you won't want to waste years that you could be finding a real life partner.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 8:09pm

kacee...welcome to the board.

maystone