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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 2:08pm
Hello all! I am so happy to say that I found a place where I can put my feelings out there with no regrets. I am a MW and involved with a MM for 18 months off and on. We live a couple of doors down from each other and talk and see each other everyday. I am friends with his W. Now we dont do each other everyday there are sometimes where we go months without it but now things have changed. Due to the fact that we are married to different people we just left it as an EMA. Well we admitted to each other that when we would stop messing around it was because we were scared of gettin hurt. I had feeling for him and go figure he had feelings for me. He asked me if it is ok to love 2 people at the same time and I say of course. I am in love with my DH but also my MM. My MM talks to me and makes me feel different than with my DH. I love my DH cause he is a good father and a good friend also. he is just not much of a talker much less a listener! DH really doesnt make me feel special or protected as MM. I have no idea what the future will hold but I do not want to let this feeling with MM go. Have anyone here still in love with MM and DH at the same time.

Meme

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 2:41pm
Hi RSM, I too have been friends with my MM and his W for many years. We embarked on our EMA a little over a year ago. We were not looking for this to happen it just did. Anyway, Yes I love my H but in a different way. I don't think, I would have ever done this if he had of been more interested in sex, listening and being a little (actually a lot) less selfish. I, like you adore my MM. The time that we spend together is a release in many ways:):) We talk several times a day and see each other almost everyday. So my answer is to you're question is yes, it is OK to love two men. We make sure to keep our eye contact down when around our friends and family. We socialize a great deal together, spending holidays and special times together, etc.... I know for a fact that my H nor his W has no idea about us and we want to keep it that way. His W is a wonderful person and She would kill me dead if she ever found out about us. I think it is important when two people make the decision to start an EMA that you respect each other and their families. We both understand that if one of us says we're going to call or e-mail and we don't it's not because we don't care it's because the other half has been around. I wish you all the luck in the world! Hence, my screen name (NoMoreRegrets). NMR
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 3:50pm
Thanks so much for your input! You made me feel better because I do respect his marriage and he respects mine. He is infact friends with my H. I guess its kinda hard not too due to the fact of that we are neighbors! I have kids (2) and he has (1) and we hang out and get together for family events and holidays. For example we all went to the mall with our children on Halloween and went out to dinner. Its kinda like I look at him different when he is wife his family and he says that same about me. Its wonderful that we understand each other. I am so glad to find someone on here that feels the same way I do!! I feel so much better now that I have a place where I can talk in confidence.When you keep it in its like you feel down like its wrong. But how can something wrong feel right? Thanks for you input again!! Good Luck with yours too!

Meme

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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 4:10pm
You are very welcome! I totally understand about the party and dinner thing. MM, his W, my H and I go to all the same holiday parties. We always spend New Years together, last year he cooked this fabulous meal! Feel free to contact me anytime! Life is good when you both have that understanding, respect and friendship. OH, and the Great SEX does'nt hurt:):)LOL, NMR
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 5:30pm

Hi Meme and welcome to the board,


I'd have to pretty much say that I love both my DH and my MM... while it may sound strange... but it's taken a lot to get there.


My EMA... really did stem out from all the marriage problems that DH and I have... and while I wasn't looking for it... there it was and I guess you could say... I took the bull by the horns... and I didn't look back.


It's not been an easy road... trying to fix my marriage and at the same time understand my EMA... but I'm at a place I feel content.

Sweet
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