newbie here.. wanted to tell my story
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newbie here.. wanted to tell my story
| Thu, 08-13-2009 - 3:05pm |
Hi. I'm so glad I found this group on iVillage. I'd like to be able to get this out. lol I think I'll feel alot better.
I have been married to my dh for 9 years...we have an almost 9 year old and an almost 3 year old. I met my AP several years ago. Our oldest kids went to preschool together and our families are friends. I've always found him very attractive. We recently moved a few houses down from him and his family (wife, 3 kids) in their subdivision. We've done alot of family things together. The end of June I told him how I felt about him. He responded positively and said he felt the same. We have been emailing and seeing each other every chance we get since then. Here's the difficult part: we both love our spouses very much but are in love with each other too. I can't get this man out of my mind and I literally ache to touch him. He feels the same way about me. Neither one of us has any intention of leaving our spouses but don't want to the other go, either. So what are we supposed to do? Just continue this and hope and pray we don't get caught? I would love to be with him but at the same time I'm still in love with my dh too. Help!
I have been married to my dh for 9 years...we have an almost 9 year old and an almost 3 year old. I met my AP several years ago. Our oldest kids went to preschool together and our families are friends. I've always found him very attractive. We recently moved a few houses down from him and his family (wife, 3 kids) in their subdivision. We've done alot of family things together. The end of June I told him how I felt about him. He responded positively and said he felt the same. We have been emailing and seeing each other every chance we get since then. Here's the difficult part: we both love our spouses very much but are in love with each other too. I can't get this man out of my mind and I literally ache to touch him. He feels the same way about me. Neither one of us has any intention of leaving our spouses but don't want to the other go, either. So what are we supposed to do? Just continue this and hope and pray we don't get caught? I would love to be with him but at the same time I'm still in love with my dh too. Help!

I am a newbie to MAS as well.
And for the record, I also know this isn't ethical and goes against what I believe is right but I'm in too deep and living just a few houses down from him and being able to see him everyday would make this very difficult to stop. He agrees with this as well.
I'll tell you what I wish someone had told me --- read the Ending the Affair board posts, especially those under Healing Library/D-Days.