Newbies - please read this first

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2007
Newbies - please read this first
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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 9:10am

First, welcome to the board. You will find a lot of support here from very smart people who are going through, or have been through, what you are feeling or struggling with - or even enjoying. :)


At weekends we sometimes get posts from - lets say - people who don't understand the position we are in or how we got here. They disrupt the board and scare away a lot of newbies who really, really need this board.


I will tell you a year ago when I first came to this board, I found advice and insight and made friends without whom I could not have got through this past year.


So be patient - we will respond to your posts! And please don't be offended by the "other" posts that don't belong here. Its not personal. And it will die down again - it always does when the medication kicks back in.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 2:38pm
Well said!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 3:47pm
"when the medication kicks in" ... BTDT ... you always have a wonderful way with words ... I second that! lol









"Life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself" ... unknown author






iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 5:15pm

Hey BTDT-- SO surprised to see you!! Hope that your just back to give support for A's & not in need of A support yourself! Could say I was "only kidding" BUT it's not like I haven't seen that happen on this board before!


Anyway, this is OT I know, but, I RARELY post anymore & don't even lurk much anymore -- I actually got that idea from YOU ^_^ ... Since things were "moving forward" in your life & you decided to leave the board & put your thoughts & energy into the positive of "moving on" -- I decided that I too should start thinking & putting my thoughts & "positive energy" toward a future w/ AP. Yes -- even though we are still in a A -- I now go more onto "Making a 2nd Marriage work" board & "Parents of bi-racial children" boards (since we SO want to have a child together)... Because I realized continuing to keep getting support for being in an A -- was actually keeping the relationship as an A, when I needed to be looking into support for where I actually WANT our relationship to be

Pregnancy%20ticker
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:40pm

Hey! Thanks for the message. So glad to hear you are moving in the direction you are moving in. It sounds like a good plan to prepare because the R after an A is not like any other R you've been in.


Anyway, yes, things are going well. BF and I celebrated our anniversary this week. Can you believe its been a year? Anyway, slowly but surely we are making really good progress towards a great relationship. The communication is better than it ever was in our Ms, everything is better.


There have been times I wasn't sure we would make it, but I really believe we will. We are both really trying. But even if we hadn't, I still would not go back to H and I will never again second-guess that decision.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 08-23-2008 - 12:05am
glad to hear that things are going well with you.