welcome geek_chic. I am in a similar situation - I love my husband and my OM who is single. The love is different though - my husband I love like a friend and as a person. He has his good qualities but we are not very compatible emotionally and mentally. Like you said everybody thinks my husband is great but I have one of those 'perfect from outside passionless from inside' kind of marriage. Passionless not just literally, emotionally as well. My husband is one of those intellectual types that lives in his own ivory tower. I need more passion, more connection than he can give me. OM says its the same for him - the emotional connection and the natural feeling of belonging with each other. Unlike your OM, mine is not average - he is exeptional!! He is smart, witty, and very caring in so many ways it just doesn't compare with H. Plus I don't have this habbit of comparing the men in my life - they are two different people and I love them as they are and differently. I know my OM is my soul mate in more than one way....
Hey, what is your OM's pasttime? Mind is a avid skier.... Keep posting and welcome.
Yes , I was in this situation before. I have been married for 11 years. I married my husband. And dumped my love. Now I regret it. Because I'm going thru a divorce. We had lots of feelings for each other. When I got married he astrayed from me. Then we connected back when I met a mutual friend of his. Then thats when it all started. A year later I was pregnant with my second child(husband). Thru out the relationship it grew stronger and we admit our feeling to eachother. He was there when I split from my husband. We hung out while I was pregnant and did all sorts of things. The funny thing is that we never had sex. Until after I split from my husband. We saw more and were unbreakable. His family knew we dated before and I got married and was having problems. But he discard what htey may say. Unfortunately he got married cause I would not acknowledge my love for him. It finally sunk in when he told me. Then I knew how much I cared for him. The funny thing is that t this day we are always going to love each other and have a specila place in our hearts. Ad recently we have got together. He just can't let me go ever. I can tell. He loves his wife but its not the same as ours. Do I make any sense? Wel if you need to talk I am here!
Welcome, GC. And, yes, there are those of us who love two men, I being one of them. I just love each in a different way. To put it simply, MM is everything DH is not, so with the two of them I feel like a complete woman. I think MM feels the same. It took us a long time to arrive at this conclusion, the first year was bumpy as hell, expectations were way off base. But now we're more "comfortable" with eachother and where we're at. MM says we have a forever kind of thing (meaning friendship). MM is my friend, DH is my husband.
Glad to have found this site and hope you to see more of you.
Hey, what is your OM's pasttime? Mind is a avid skier.... Keep posting and welcome.
Edited 3/10/2004 3:40 pm ET ET by geek_chic
Glad to have found this site and hope you to see more of you.
Luvin
Hi geek chic and welcome aboard,
I think Luvin probably said it the best for me... "MM is everything DH is not, so with the two of them I feel like a complete woman."
DH and I certainly have not been without our problems... to the extent that I was almost ready to walk away... I had been caught in my affair and
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