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| Tue, 10-28-2003 - 9:21pm |
I've been seeing MM for the past two months. It's been a wonderful time, meeting for lunches, drinks after work, dinner......and great "necking" in the car afterwards. MM is funny, has been called when he said he would call, contacts me daily. So it's been perfect for me. He has never pushed for the "the next step", however this week when we met for dinner he said "I want you....." and in a moment of out of body experience I said "I want you too". And I can honestly say, no truer words were spoken.
My question is this. I love what I have right now with MM, and hate to see it not ruined, but changed. We have fun and joke and can keep things light. What changes have you noticed since you took that big step with your MM/OM? Did you ever regret not waiting?
Thanks for your replies!

Hi life,
I met MM online... we chatted on line a few days before he asked could he have my number... somehow I felt a bond of trust with this man and gave him my home phone number... he in turn gave me his work one.
Sweet
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Something you said, "Why not love him for what we have...." struck a cord with me. That is how I'm wrapping my head around it all, "Why think this to death, enjoy the time we have, know that we can't aways put each other first, but know there is someone out there who is attentive, funny and (hopefully) a good lover." I'm realistic about this, I won't be leaving this marriage for him, my children always have and always will come first, and I don't see him leaving for me...he adores his children.
While I know this is about to complicate my life, keeping in mind what I want for myself, my children and regular visits here, should help me keep my head facing forward.
I’m going to jump in here quickly and give you my honest opinion before I get off here for the day…
I don’t think you should do anything with this man. From what you have described of him in the past, i.e., he’s a redneck, he has cheated before, you recently heard through the grapevine he may have been abusive to his wife in the past, etc. (I’m trying to remember here and I hope I am remembering correctly) -- why would you consider doing this?
I don’t think you should. All of the above, combined with the guilt and fear you are just “waiting” for -- why do it? I think once the infatuation with him wears off, you will very much regret this. He just doesn’t sound like he would be worth the risk you would be taking; the emotional risk, AND the physical risk (getting caught).
I hope you don’t mind my being honest here. Just think about it more.
Charlotte
Edited 10/29/2003 9:49:31 AM ET by charlotte1203
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