No Answers, Just Acceptance

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Registered: 03-26-2003
No Answers, Just Acceptance
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Sun, 09-14-2008 - 3:15pm

I discovered this board about 6 years ago, when an old love came back into my life.


He is M and I am M; both for around 30 years.

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Registered: 06-22-2007
Sun, 09-14-2008 - 7:39pm
May I ask a question? If you knew years ago what you know today, would you have left your M? Before it was too complicated, too entrenched, too everything? I have been married for 12 years, together 14, and
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 6:01am
My first reaction to your question was to say no.
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Registered: 03-04-2008
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 5:59pm

I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciated your "thoughts" and sharing those thoughts with those of us who are in unsatisifed (sex) M's.

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Registered: 06-06-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 2:45am
I saw this movie called "Why did I get married?" In the movie they talk about the 80/20 rule. The 80/20 rule is this....when you're married you get about 80% of your needs met by your spouse, and if you have an affair you get the other 20% from your AP. I thought that that was a pretty good explanation for some A's. My AP says that I am his 80%, and his wife is the other 20%, that's why he is leaving. I don't know I just though that I would share that with you.
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 8:16am

I loved that movie!!

Remember, when the men discussed the 80/20 rule, they also pointed out the danger. If the spouse, who gives you 80, finds out about the affair and leaves you, then you're left with the one who gives you 20... and that's just what happened to that idiot guy in the movie - and he deserved it!

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

Proud to be a



You've got a lot of choices. I
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 9:39am

Why should you not be accepted.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 10:58am
There is a difference between someone who won't do something about the problem and someone who can't do something.
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Registered: 09-15-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 2:37pm

I totally agree with you there. Sometimes a H