No kissing???

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No kissing???
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Thu, 11-06-2003 - 6:19pm
Hi all...I have a rather strange question/situation. I have a male friend who I have been friends with for 3 years. We are both M, no kids. I have always been attracted to him. We flirt heavily with lots of suggestive and sexually charged remarks flying between us. Things have always been fun and innocent between us...that is, until about 2 weeks ago. I guess you could say that we took things to a 'physical' level. Lots of holding and touching, but nothing else. Then the other day, he came over to my house and things went quite a bit further...more holding, touching, and exploring. However the one element that was missing was kissing. I kinda thought this was strange. Are some guys just not into the kissing thing? For me personally, I find it kinda hard not to kiss someone that I'm being intimate with. Does that make sense? There is a 'closeness' that I guess is implied with kissing...perhaps this freaked him out? I don't really know. I wanted to kiss him, but I didn't want to do something that would scare him off. Does anybody else have experience with this type of situation? How do you handle it? Is it maybe just too soon to expect a kiss from him? Or could it just be that he's not the kissing kind of guy? At this point, I'm not really sure where things are headed..but IF there is a next time, should I bring it up? Thanks!

Bfly


Edited 11/6/2003 7:13:13 PM ET by butterfly1550

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 2:23pm
sure butterfly, bring it up. communication is sooo very important in the beginning of any R and especially here where you don't have a "real" dating R. just say "what's up with the no kissing?" tell him you love the intimacy of kissing and miss it with him.

see what he says and talk about it openly.

good luck,

gurl

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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 2:46pm
I agree with Gurl! Bring it up. I guess some people aren't much on the kissing thing but for Christ sakes give me some lips baby:):)
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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 2:52pm
i'm cracking up over here.....;))))))) gimme some lips baby!!! how in the world can you not kiss when you're doing the deed?? it's beyond me....

gurl

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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 2:58pm
Once again, I agree! My Mm is a kissing nut. Sometimes, I'm like ok enough, enough! He likes those looooooooogggggggggggg passionate ones. It was weird for me in the beginning because my H just gives pecks here and there. LOL.....NMR
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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 3:14pm
It almost sounds as though he wants the physical part of the relationship but not the intimate part...kissing is a very intimate thing to do with someone and maybe he does not want the emotional involvement.
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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 3:22pm
Is your breath foul?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 3:26pm
oh no you didn't go there!!

whatever. suck a mint next time!

gurl

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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 3:38pm
ROFLMAO! You kill me Gurl. NMR
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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 3:40pm
hahahahahahahaha..... i kill myself nomo!!!

gurl

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Fri, 11-07-2003 - 4:48pm
Hello butterfly!My first a I had om was the same way.I asked him if he liked to kiss and he said not yet.I told him I do,well he ended the a after that it seemed like, I don't think that had anything to with him ending it but it was just funny.New om said he only kisses people he really trust.We kiss all the time were together,so I guess that's good.Just ask om why he doesn't kiss you.

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