No real point but...

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Registered: 03-31-2012
No real point but...
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 11:52pm

I know there is no real point in posting this as I know what my options are and it's not really advice I need, but I guess I just need to be able to get it out to SOMEONE.

I am married and have children and I love my husband the way you love your very best friend but I am not in love with him. I am having an affair with a man who is also married and also has children and I am VERY MUCH in love with him and he with me.

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Sun, 04-01-2012 - 12:29am
I feel your pain. I am on second A..both lomg distance. That distance seems like a million miles away some days. I fell in love with my first AP. He broke my heart in so many ways and more than once. We ended things 11 months ago and last month he chose to end his life. The pain in unbearable at times even though we were not together any more. That pain of knowing he is at home and not with you is the hardest and that does not matter how close or far you live from them but is a real part of A's that everyone pretty much feels at one time or another. Hang in there and know you have support here when you need someone to listen. Your post hit home hard for me.
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Registered: 07-24-2009
Sun, 04-01-2012 - 7:54am

I don't have many words of wisdom, but know that this is the right place to do exactly what you've done.

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Registered: 11-29-2011
Sun, 04-01-2012 - 8:03am
Unfortunately I do not believe the pain of not being able to be with the one you love will EVER go away. I think we either have to accept it for what it is, enjoy what we CAN have of them, or leave if its too hard for you to accept...I've been on this roller coaster for a year and a half, and it hasn't been any easier going forward. The longing, the jealousy, the feelings can be overwhelming at times ...but I LOVE him & he loves me, so we try the best that we can to work on things

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14