No Sex

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2008
No Sex
4
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 8:45pm
I haven't posted on here in a while but my A is still going on. I don't hesitate to tell him how I feel about him. We have spent time together . We have talked for hours on end and I believe he is my soul mate. One of the things I don't understand is he will not have sex with me. We have done just about everything else but that. It took us 8 months to even do anything and it will be a year next month. Our relationship is very emotional more then physical but I have never wanted anything more then I want him ( sexually ), The last time we were together we had the chance but ended up just messing around. Any thoughts anyone?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2006
In reply to: bumbles2009
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 10:48pm
The only thing that i can think of is that he believes in the Bill Clinton theory that anything outside of intercourse is not an A. Noone can help you out on this one, you need to come right out and ask him why he won't give you the full enchilada.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: bumbles2009
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 12:09am
Maybe he's holding on to the belief that if he gets caught he can honestly say he did not have sex with you. Yeah, Bill Clinton comes to mind.... My other theory? Most men (not all) would prefer to get the B J. So, I hope he's giving you yours even without the actual IC.


Shadow Word generated at Pimp-My-Profile.com
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."


- Ramona L. Anderson
Shadow Word generated at Pimp-My-Profile.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2007
In reply to: bumbles2009
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 8:58am

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: bumbles2009
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 11:46am
I agree with others.He might as well be wanting you to initiate and not take the responsibility of taking it to that level.Does he know that you want him bad? If it doesnt bother you taking the leap which he is not,then i would say go for it if thats what you want.But take your time to go over all the pros and cons of crossing the line.