Is this normal

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Registered: 04-09-2010
Is this normal
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Thu, 04-22-2010 - 9:14am

Does the love you have for your AP make you hate him?

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Registered: 05-17-2003
In reply to: j_net
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 9:56am

Yes, personally I think it's normal.

Everything you said describes me to a T...and yeah, sometimes I hate him (and myself too).

benska

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Registered: 11-14-2009
In reply to: j_net
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 2:08pm

j-net,


I agree that this is all pretty normal. You feel like you are obsessed with him and you don't want to be. You just want to love him for who he is. I was once like this in the beginning of my A. Now that 2 1/2 years has gone by it does die down...I promise. I do still find myself getting so emotionally wrapped up in things that it takes a toll on me. AP and I are now together as I'm divorced and his is almost final. But before we got to this stage it did start to settle down some. I did hate him for making me feel the way I did and I did push him away several times because of it. I was tired of my entire life being consumed with every thought of him.


Just take it day by day and it should get better.

cntrygirl03
cntrygirl03
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Registered: 04-09-2010
In reply to: j_net
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 4:02pm
What do you do after 7 years? I still love him like I loved him on day one.
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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: j_net
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 4:15pm
Yep, completely normal. I think it's normal for anyone in the beginning of a love relationship to be obsessed. In an A, it becomes painful because you can't be in the open or see each other as often as you'd like. :-)

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