Is this normal behavior for AP?

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Is this normal behavior for AP?
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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 1:15am

OK, my AP and I are both pervs and we both include dirty references and innuendos in our conversations, with each other and almost everyone else we know. When our A started out in December, the sex talk escalated and got a lot more detailed---what he does with wife, what I do with H, experiences we have had in the past, etc.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 7:39am

Hmmm... what jumped out at me reading your post is that he doesn't seem to want to talk about sex with his W or you having freaky sex with your H anymore, not necessarily that he doesn't want to talk about sex in general. Next time, try to talk about "fantasy sex" or long ago sex or first sexual experiences. It might just be that he has a natural reluctance to talk about sex with W or you having sex with H because it's "poor form" to talk or compare current sexual partners? Or he has a little sexual jealousy so he just doesn't want to "go there"?

By the way - this might help with talking about sex - did you know that ivillage has some terrific sex boards? Boards like "sex taboos", "make him moan", "sexual fantasies", "let's talk toys"... that's only a few of them! I'll bet you could read stuff there that would give you great conversation ideas LOL.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 10:08am

I think since you and AP are getting more physical that it may be a hint of jealousy and he

 


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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 11:14am
I agree with Rayne.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 11-14-2009
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 11:25am

I agree with the previous posters about the feelings. Before you and AP became intimate it was a fantasy for yall to be together. That connection hadn't been met between the two of you, so talking was as close as it could get. Talking about being with your spouses isn't something I would have particularly wanted to hear, but we are all different. I'm not by any means saying it's wrong or unhealthy, it's reality.
But now that yall have been intimate feelings have gotten stronger for it sounds like him. He feels that sexual connection with you, which as we all know brings a lot of emotions and feelings into the mix. Now that he's experienced you for himself, he doesn't probably feel the need or doesn't even want to hear about what goes on at home. Does that make sense?


I think his feelings have gotten stronger so jealousy is ragging.

cntrygirl03
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 10:05pm

Hmm..maybe that could be but he really doesn't seem like the jealous type at all.