Nosey neighbors...

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Nosey neighbors...
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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 10:31pm
Ok, I have a question I want to throw out there. My story in a nutshell...I'm a MW involved in a 'friends w/benefits' relationship with a MM. This arrangement we have has been going on for over 4 months now. My H works opposite hours that I do, so it makes it very convenient for MM to stop by on a certain day of the week that he's not working. This has pretty much been the only way in which we have been able to get together...he coming over to my house for a quick romp. Now before everyone lectures me on how risky this practice is...let me just say that I am fully aware of it. But I know that my MM would never even consider going to a motel...so that option is out of the question. My main concern is nosey neighbors. First off...let me clarify that I don't commiserate with ANY of my neighbors..infact for the most part, I don't even know their names with the exception of one...the guy next door to us. However, we're not on good terms...he's crazy, made threats against my H, cops are over there constantly, doesn't take care of his property, etc. In otherwords, your basic run-of-the-mill white trash. The problem is...the guy is on disability and doesn't work...therefore he has nothing better to do with his time than to spy on the rest of us. I'm sure he has seen my MM come and go on various occasions without giving it a second thought. But now that the frequency of the visits has increased, I'm wondering what he might be thinking. How should I handle this if he confronts either myself or my H? Other than the obvious...DENY, DENY, DENY...is their anyone out there in a similar position that can offer some tips on how to handle a nasty, nosey neighbor? Oh...for the record, MM parks down the block and walks to my house.

Bfly


Edited 1/27/2004 10:35:34 PM ET by butterfly1550

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Registered: 01-25-2004
Tue, 01-27-2004 - 10:54pm
ok, this may sound silly but......why dont you have him park at a nearby gas station or grocery store and you pick him up, that way no one will see him walking to your home and you can come and go from your home as many times as you want! Have him lie on the seat til youre under your carport or in your garage.

Mama

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 01-27-2004 - 11:53pm

Hey Bfly,


I guess I'm in similar circumstances... but don't think I have any advice to offer.

Sweet
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Registered: 07-09-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 1:01am
Mama...you offer a great idea and I thank you for it. Unfortunately, my garage is detached from my house, so your idea wouldn't quite work for us. In the beginning, MM would simply park his car in my driveway...NOT a smart idea. That's when I suggested that he park on the street. I live on a fairly busy street with a business district 1/2 block away from my house, so it's pretty common to see many cars parked on the street near my home as well as seeing people walking up and down the block. My main area of concern is dealing with this one particular neighbor who can't seem to keep his nose out of my business. I know he suspects something because he already tried to confront my H once before. Luckily, my H knows that this guy isn't playing with a full deck, so naturally he didn't believe a word he said. When H confronted me about it, I just laughed it off as nothing more than our nutty, demented neighbor trying to stir up trouble...my H agreed wholeheartedly, and it was never brought up again. But in recent weeks, MM has been stopping by on a weekly basis...same day, same time..so if the crazy neighbor is keeping tabs on us, I'm sure he's aware of this. I'm just paranoid that he might be snapping photos of MM coming and leaving...probably not, cuz I honestly don't think he's that smart...but then again, I could be wrong. ACK! It's just so darn frustrating having to worry about your neighbors ratting you out. I guess the good thing is that my H hates this neighbor with a passion, so I know he would never believe him over me. But I can't help but be a little bit paranoid....know what I mean?

Bfly

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 1:06am
Thank you, Sweet. Even though you couldn't offer any advice, it's always nice to have someone else's insight to the situation....especially when the circumstances are similar. I appreciate the feedback. =)

Bfly

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 10:14am
My MM used to drop by every morning before he went to work, but luckily it was dark, but now his schedule has changed and he can't come by anymore. So there are days when we both go to work late or not at all and I go to his house. He doesn't know his neighbors, but I was more worried if his W does. The first time I went there I went in the back door, the last time I went in the front, and as I was leaving he told me that I am his maid!!!! I thought it was so funny, so I guess thats what I'm doing at his place when i go!! lol. And about sneaking him in, with the car, I have done that also, all I have is a driveway, he hid and i drove in and we went in the back, lucky for me my nosy neighbor lives the other way and cant see my car!!!! Good luck!!!