Not feeling guilty
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Not feeling guilty
| Tue, 01-27-2004 - 8:52am |
I have been married for 17 years and in August became involved with a man I have known and been attracted to for quite some time. I keep thinking I should feel guilty about this affair but I am enjoying spending time with him that I have yet to have any guilty feelings. He is divorced with small children and I have no children. Our time together is wonderful and he makes me feel like a queen. Our feelings for each other are strong but he is fully aware of my situation. Should I be feeling guilty?

I'm married (14 years) and seeing a married man (he's been married 25 years) and neither of us feels guilty. We both love our spouses and children (mine are little, his are teens). We work hard to keep our A a secret, and we work hard on our marriages. We both still have lots of good times (and good sex) with our spouses. We are careful not to intrude on each other's family lives, but we need our time together. It rejuvenates us and makes us better people all around. I'm not saying it's not wrong, I'm just saying, monogamy is not necessarily the highest value in marriage. I think it's possible to not feel guilty about an affair if you're still taking good care of the needs of your loved ones.
Good luck
Mama
Thank you for your reply. I appreciate the support. I never thought I would have an ema but it has turned out to be the most wonderful thing in my life.