Not sure now

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Not sure now
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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 7:32pm
Me and my ap are both m we have been in a long term a since 07. He has been unemployed or underemployed since the recession started in 08 he is now working a contract that will go perm. We had always planned tO be together but with his job situation that took a back seat for a while now he is in the process of leaving his w. and I'm not sure how I feel about that. Weird huh?
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Registered: 01-08-2011
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 7:56pm

I think realizing that what you wanted for a long time you will be getting soon is indeed scary.

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 8:44pm
I think you are right it's exciting and scary at the same time.
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Registered: 04-28-2011
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 10:26pm

actually so far it has been going pretty well between the two of us. He has let me know and I have noticed that he is a lot happier. Which I knew he was not happy in his M so and kids are grown so that is not really an issue. I have been taking it one day at a time so far.

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Registered: 04-24-2012
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 1:12pm

I'm also long term with my AP and at the beginning I would have done just about anything to be "his" and to be his wife.

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 6:02pm
I still want to leave my marriage but I'm not totally sure that I would marry him his kids are grown so it wouldn't be a typical step parent role involved. I do know more about him and I still want to be with him but I realize that it's not an overnight process. I'm willing to give him the space he need she has a lot of things going on and a lot of decisions to make so I'm giving him his space