Not sure what to do now..

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Not sure what to do now..
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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 12:35am

Unexpectedly, I have someone that I thought was really just a big flirt (not the guy I've been flirting with heavily and hoping to pursue) tell me that he's interested in more than words.  Nothing has happened because frankly, I want this other guy and if there's any chance there, I don't want to ruin it.  But I find this other guy intriguing in a whole different way.  Definitely not in a stronger way but the thought of our lips meeting doesn't exactly turn me off.  WTF do I do??  It's been so long since I've had any affection, I almost feel like I'm an alcoholic sitting in a bar with a beer in front of me.  It might not be my favorite beer but I remember how much I like the taste and I don't know if I should take that sip or not.   If I do and I hate it, then I probably will back off of the one I DO want to pursue.  If I do and I love it, will it make me bold enough to actually tell the one I want that I want him?

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 12:44am
Do not do it...it will cause bigger issues, trust me. If.you are going down this path, adding another one in that you may only be with because your lacking things at home will be a HUGE headache.
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Registered: 10-03-2011
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 2:49am
No I wouldn't do it. It really sounds like you and guy #1 are heading somewhere. I wouldn't throw in some random, only "ok" guy into the mix right now. You never know what these things will come to, and having to deal with too many can become messy and risky. Especially for a guy you aren't all that into.
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Registered: 12-18-2008
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 7:38am

I have 2 AP, have had for a long time. They are very different and that keeps things interesting. It takes some juggling (lol) but that's part of the fun. If you aren't sure your #1 is going to get with it, having #2 on tap is a smart move. Who knows, maybe #1 is all talk / no action (common unfortunately) and #2 is the real deal. Just saying! :smileyvery-happy:

 

-jana