Not sure what is going on

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Not sure what is going on
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Wed, 10-22-2008 - 9:21am

Hi. I have only posted here once before but lurking some lately. I have been seeing AP for almost 5 mths now. We escalated pretty quickly into a serious... saying I love you... when we get married.... relationship. We do work together but only every other weekend. He has been on vacation the past week. Problem is I thought since his W and my H both work days we would see each other alot more then usual.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 11:10am

He probably tried very hard to act completely normal while he was off. If his wife is checking local calls (which I didn't know was possible unless it was on a cell phone), then she must be suspicious of something. So I can understand why he would try to be "accountable" for all his time when he's not working. I can understand your disappointment but he was trying to be safe.

If you've already progressed to the "I love you" stage, do you have any plans for the future, or is this going to be an affair for as long as it lasts? If it's the latter, then it will only last as long as your spouses don't find out. My OM is often more careful than I am, even though he's single, because he knows that discovery would mean the end of he and I. Unless H kicked me out of the house which wouldn't be impossible...

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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