Not Sure What I Did

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Not Sure What I Did
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 12:26pm
A while ago I slept with a co-worker. He was a manager at one of our distribution centers. We became friends when he reported to my boss and I was her administrative assistant. When I first saw him I knew I could get in trouble. I should have listened to what was inside of my head. But we don't always do that. We didn't not live in the same area so I only saw him when he traveled to corporate. We always said we would be friends no matter what happens. He has since quit the company and moved with his family to a different state. One thing that really upset me was that he didn't have the guts or the decency to tell me he was quitting. I heard about it from another co-worker. He has only called me twice since he left the company. The last time was over a month ago. I have stood up for this guy when rumors were flying around the company about him. I would always ask him how he is doing. Not once did he ever initate an e-mail or phone call to see how I was doing. Maybe I bothered him too much. Who knows? I would ask if I was pestering him and he would always say no. If he does call, how should I act? I know he is going to tell me has been busy-always the excuse. Why should I care? It's pretty obvious that he doesn't care about me.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 1:22pm
I think you allready know the answer to this. He does not seem interested. You said that you only slept together once. Was this a relationship or a one time fling? I think that you need to move on, he has, literally. Maybe you need a change in jobs to get your mind off of him. I thin its time for a new fresh start for you with a man who is more mature.
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Registered: 04-22-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 3:20pm
We slept together more than once, but you are right it is time for me to stop wondering about him and move on. If he does happen to call I will act like nothing is wrong and keep it very casual.
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Registered: 04-24-2004
Sun, 04-25-2004 - 8:45pm
Beth,

Its obvious that he is no longer interested. One of the risks of an EMA is how to end it. A buddy of mine had an affair with a coworker. He was straightfoward when he ended it with her but she went psycho and called his house and told his 16 year old daughter about it. With that in mind a lot of guys will just indirectly end a relationship because they fear the consequences.

Time to move on for you...

Wish you the best.