hi, i wish i could think like but like lostlittlelady i too feel that when he does his LC thing he is forgetting about me being or feeling better about the fact that i'm not there and realising that maybe after all it's better without me.
please please please help me be more positive and have a differnet outlook on this LC thing just by explaing how it's actually a good thing. im just so blinded by negativity now some light would be great.
my AP just got married and wants to end it but still be very close has considered starting again with me alot, but he sometimes thinks im not ready i used to feel that he couldnt realyy love me as much if he has a SO but from being here i realise thats not necessarily true its more than about love sometimes!!
thanks for your reply our situations are sooooooooo similar!! or it feels that way. I to want my AP be happy but I dont show it very well he tells me i should want his marriage to work thing is personally i think he is in denial, he talks about how he has had enough all the time and now he thinks that being married will rectify that, like stop being in denial right?! he tried to have a relationship with just the two fo them and it hasnt worked so now in "denial" he wants me to always be around in his life to in my opinion
i hope so to i just keep praying for some clarity for me and him. we stopped ahving sex in april cos we were arguing alot and it wasnt really working i wasnt happy and he wasnt either but he tries to convince himself we broke up because he wanted to do the right thing. so for the past 5 months he says we are "just friends" but is alwaysa considering more. but the ways he's acting tells me differnt.
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Yes it all makes sense.
hi, i wish i could think like but like lostlittlelady i too feel that when he does his LC thing he is forgetting about me being or feeling better about the fact that i'm not there and realising that maybe after all it's better without me.
please please please help me be more positive and have a differnet outlook on this LC thing just by explaing how it's actually a good thing. im just so blinded by negativity now some light would be great.
my AP just got married and wants to end it but still be very close has considered starting again with me alot, but he sometimes thinks im not ready i used to feel that he couldnt realyy love me as much if he has a SO but from being here i realise thats not necessarily true its more than about love sometimes!!
Thank you so much for your insight.
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thanks for your reply our situations are sooooooooo similar!! or it feels that way. I to want my AP be happy but I dont show it very well he tells me i should want his marriage to work thing is personally i think he is in denial, he talks about how he has had enough all the time and now he thinks that being married will rectify that, like stop being in denial right?! he tried to have a relationship with just the two fo them and it hasnt worked so now in "denial" he wants me to always be around in his life to in my opinion
It does seem odd that he would marry her while still in a relationship with you.
i hope so to i just keep praying for some clarity for me and him. we stopped ahving sex in april cos we were arguing alot and it wasnt really working i wasnt happy and he wasnt either but he tries to convince himself we broke up because he wanted to do the right thing. so for the past 5 months he says we are "just friends" but is alwaysa considering more. but the ways he's acting tells me differnt.
Oh yeah, the denial can be huge.
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