Not sure where this is going...

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Not sure where this is going...
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Fri, 03-26-2010 - 11:11pm

I am a 35 year old F who has been married for 14 years.

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Registered: 10-17-2007
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 1:20am

I would say that happily married people can easily find themselves in affairs almost as easily as unhappily married people. Compartmentalization is the key. You said you don't talk on the weekend, he's in the family box then. You are in the 8-4 weekday box. That's how most affairs start. Some stay that way. I have been in an A for 4 years and we are weekday only/business hours only. I would say that we are both "happily" married (cake eaters). Myself more than him (I think). But still, we don't really discuss our spouses at all. That kinda blurs the lines. Occasionally he will mention an argument or something they are struggling with, and I never say anything bad about my H.

If you want an affair, I certainly would not question him, like "what are we doing here?" That will make him back off. Just let it ride and enjoy the attention. If you want to take it slower just keep the IM'ing light and get some work done. Let him be the one who makes the first move. Sounds like he's on his way.

If it's not what you want then let it fade out. You're the one in control of this.

:)

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sun, 03-28-2010 - 1:54am

Thanks for the feedback, chechi!