Not wanting to let go of what was

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2009
Not wanting to let go of what was
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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 8:02am

I've read many posts over the 3 affair boards but didn't really find threads where the affair is over and you were the one who got dumped..

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-28-2004
Fri, 07-10-2009 - 1:37pm

I'm sorry, I know you are feeling bad right now. I know the feeling. You text or email and wait wait wait for a response, checking all day . I would leave him alone. It sucks that he slept with you and then decided to make it business only. That was a crappy thing for him to do. What a jerk!


You deserve better and you will get better. I'm kinda going through this. I dont know where me and my AP stand right now. Be strong and try to keep busy so you wont think about it as much. Sometimes it works. If you are not happy with your marriage maybe you would be better off on your own pursuing what you want to do in life. Me and my H are seperating, it was mutual. It's sad but it's good to have a fresh start. Maybe that's what you need.


Let us know what happens *Hugs*


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2009
Fri, 07-10-2009 - 2:02pm

First let me say I am sorry you are going through this, it WILL get better and you WILL see light at the end of the tunnel.


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Fri, 07-10-2009 - 4:52pm

Hiya,

the business style mail.....the nonchalant behavior..I try myself to intrepet it. I digest and dig, I rip apart and piece it back together. I know how you are feeling. My AP has pulled back very suddenly and in a very extreme way. Hurting me so badly. And I am confused and upset, downright sick....and here I am trying to give you advice. Its so funny, we look for advice, we look for someone who knows more about these situations.....but God forbid its something we dont want to hear. God forbid its something negative. In the midst of the pain, nobody wants to hear it. They want hope, understanding, pushing you forward, but not pulling you away from the person you fell for. I have been reading here a lot. And I notice how I pick out the, what are to me, positive things.
I cant tell you whats going on, cause I am stuck in the middle of my own situation, not knowing what is what.
All I can offer....I know what you feel like. And I am sorry you are hurting so badly.
Stay here on this board, write your guts out if you have to. I write email every day that I never send. I get on here, read, listen to what the people say...
Again, I am sorry you are hurting....I do hope you get the outcome you so want.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2009
Sat, 07-11-2009 - 12:51am
Well I actually did get a response today..
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2009
Mon, 07-13-2009 - 11:37pm

Well I'm noticing that I get drunk to make myself happy even for a brief period of time.