not yet involved in affair

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2008
not yet involved in affair
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:23am
I am recently divorced and my marriage ended because of my husband having an affair. I've always told myself that I would never get involved with a married man because of the pain it causes for the wife and children. I have been talking to an old friend (we dated 17 years ago in high school) lately. He's not married but has a live-in girlfriend and they have been together for about 4 or 5 years. We have only been talking.....nothing physical, but I feel so guilty! I don't want to break them up, but I often think of being with him. Should I go for what makes me happy, or put a stop to this before it goes any further?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2008
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 12:10pm

I wonder sometimes when this question comes up about should or shouldn't I, if people really want the advise or are in someway just looking for someone to tell them it is ok and they should just be happy?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2008
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 12:32pm

Don't do it. It's simply not worth it. If you're looking for happiness, I can absolutely guarantee you that you won't find it in A. If you're divorced, find yourself an available man, there are plenty, there is no need to get involved in all this craziness. I can somewhat understand when two M people get involved in A, but being single - why to start something that has such a little chance of becoming a successful, healthy and fulfilling relationship, why set yourself up for failure? Forget about him and move on.

My standard answer to the question like that - do not read MAS, go read End of Affair Support board (EAS). There you will find out what brutal reality of A is and how difficult to break yourself free from it and what it can do to your life.

(((Hugs)))

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