Not your typical affair

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Not your typical affair
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Wed, 11-05-2003 - 10:32am

Or maybe it is. I've posted before. Over the summer. But I used a different screenname. Which I prefer not to give. Last time I was here, I'd come in contact with an "old flame" but walked away with no lines being crossed. And I thought that was it for all EMA. And now I'm in this not so typical affair situation. Well, I don't know, maybe it is typical for this age of technology.


Very innocently I met this MM. We started chatting via a messenging service. We met because of a website we have a common interest in. It was very friendly. He is very attractive but he stated he was "happily" married and I had been working on preserving my "perfect" marriage. (Well perfect to everyone but me). We'd been talking almost daily for about a month and then something changed. It is so indescribable. And probably seems insane to someone who's never fallen in love online. It was the day he said "I thought I was happily married until I met you" and that he felt "cheated by fate" everything changed at that point.


So now, we've both admitted our feelings are for each other are love. We're both married with children. And are on opposite sides of the country (which is really the ONLY thing that's kept us from physcially together). Thank God for cells phones and nationwide longdistance! LOL! We do plan on meeting sometime in the future, somehow....I guess what I want to know or hear from is from other online only affairs. And trust me, I realize this is an affair. Right now, it's only an emotional affair...but still an affair. I have given my heart to someone else.


It's hard. It hurts. But at the same time feels so good and right. Just need some BTDT advice.

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 11:14am
Well our A's are very different. MM lives two minutes up the street from me!! But the thing that's the same for us is that MM and i have given our hearts to each other, and can't believe we are in such difficult perdicaments brought on by love. So, while i can't relate too much, i can tell you you aren't alone when it comes to how you both feel. Hope that helps a bit.

jen

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 4:43pm
If mine lived up the street, I'm be in BIG trouble. We would have crossed that line a LONG time ago. LOL!
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 9:55am
Ive fallen in love twice on line - I was married to H#1 and just about hopped on a plane to London leaving everything behind...I still am close friends with my on-line buddy who my DH knows everything about and encourages our one day meeting...I also met my DH online - the way I look at it is it brings people into our lives we would otherwise never meet...

Just be aware that most of the time we only show the favorable sides of ourselves online as we have that control when we're hiding behind our monitors and keyboards...

cl-liberalgirl

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