Now I am p*ssed!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2008
Now I am p*ssed!
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Sun, 08-31-2008 - 5:04pm

Today I was told by a friend who has known XAP for years that the 'real' reason he is done 'for now' is because he can't make up his mind whether he wants to make up with his W or not, that is why he stays in the house with her, pretending that he is S, hasn't pursued a D even though his W has an AP, and hasn't made plans to move out.


So me, along with the exGF, and I heard one other OW, are his 'back up plans'.


I don't friggin think so!


I am no one's back up plan.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 5:13pm

Oh Green eyes....


I am so sorry to hear of the pain you are going through......


But least you found out sooner than later....

Keep your head up high girl and keep the strength to stay away....

LT xxx

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 5:17pm
I would like to say sorry you found out this about xAP but it's actually a good thing. It will help you with the pain. His plan was really nasty. Having 3 women as a back up plan if he decides not to make up with his W? He really has the nerve.

It really IS a good thing you found out this about him. Now you can be strong instead of feeling sad about someone who considers you a back up plan. Stay tough!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 7:09pm

BOOYAW!! (in guy speak, that is a good thing)


Tell Mr. I haven't got a clue about life Man, that you are the b-o-m-b. And if he gets too close, you may just GO OFF!!!


Be strong hisgreeneyes and when you feel yourself looking in "those" eyes and feeling weak in the knees, remember, they have been looking at someone else and lying to all of you!


That'll take the fog out of the air.


Good luck sweetie and have a great rest of your weekend!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 9:02pm

Your

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 10:38pm

I want to thank you for your post, and I am sorry for your pain.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 2:13am

I was also verbally abused and belittled during the time in our marriage when I was growing more independent. There were times when I just had enough and i stood up for myself only to get beat down by his unkind response. He has control issues and used his mean side to try to put me back into the submissive place. This all caused me to pull away emotionally from him and never really told him what I needed from him and we lost that connection. When the OW came into his life, he left me emotionally. I did not know of course why I began feeling so alone and empty all the time. I really think that if another man started giving me the attention and care that I so craved at that time

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2007
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 8:36am

I'm proud of you!!!


Know what??There

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 1:17pm
way to go hisgreeneyes, I hope someday I can get to the point where you are, eventhough it is painful, you don't need his sh*t, you are better than that, which you already know, I just hope someday I will realize the dame thing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 7:50am

I really do appreciate that you can see both sides being a BS, you can see how easy it is to get wrapped up in an A.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 8:34am
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