Now Im on an upswing.....
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Now Im on an upswing.....
| Fri, 07-09-2010 - 6:16am |
Hi all
As you know Im a bit up and down with this whole thing. Its been 15mths and his guilt means he has pulled back heaps over the past few mths- and strictly no discussion about feelings and future. But he still does sweet things and I do believe he has feelings for me.
In recent weeks I havent seen him but he calls or texts every week day, but this isnt enough to quell my squirrels.
So today we had an afternoon at

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Well he was impressed! :)
Lex what do you think about the baby comment though. Heavy huh?
Yeah, very heavy. I think I stayed away from commenting on it because it troubles me somewhat - putting me in your place - I'd worry about him making such a huge decision based on ME - it would scare me to think that he made a life changing decision based on our relationship. Puts a lot of pressure on your R, in a way. I have always told my OM to make any big decisions about his life as if I am NOT a part of it - things like jobs far away, dating someone (he's single), etc. Because we have no future, at least not any hope of a real life R in the future, then I want him to make those decisions based only on what's good for HIM. And he has done that, I think (unless there are times he just doesn't tell me about). I would do the same - thinking about what's best for my family, etc., in life decisions. Actually, it's probably best that your AP doesn't have another baby anyway. He's most likely not "happy enough" in his marriage to bring another child into the family. But I would be afraid that someday he might regret the decision and blame ME for it, if he thinks he's making that choice because of our R. (Am I making any sense?)
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Perfect sense!
I said the exact same thing. That 'we' have no future- not really anyway.Great fantasy but reality would not be so great!
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Hi im,
You don't have to say anything about the baby remark.
Thanks all, yeah I feel better about it today.
Knowing him as I do- he takes life decisions seriously and takes full responsibility for how his life has panned out. So while our A may play a small role in some of his decisions, I really doubt he would base a decision like that on our friendship.
I think he says it to be sweet, he tries hard to be restrained. It was nice to hear him talking about our relationship in terms of years. But who knows.
Take each day as it comes and fill your life with many other wonderful things- this seems to be the advice that I have learned from you wonderful girls :)
Yes it was a lovely afternoon.
But you know how it is, for every great moment, there are 87 crappy ones! Is it all worth it? Who knows?
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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