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| Mon, 02-16-2004 - 11:14am |
and I could really use some suggestions on damage control. I met MM for drinks on Friday and we exchanged V day gifts. He asked what I was doing for V day, and I said that since H had to work I had agreed to babysit for a friend. Then I asked about his plans, and he said that he and W had a date. I asked where they were going and it turned out that they were going to the exact restaurant that my mother was going to. She had asked me to join her, but I figured I wouldnn't be able to find a sitter, so I declined. However, later that night my friend called and said that they weren't going out after all, so I didn't need to watch her kids. Well, I must say that for the 18 months this A has been going on I have been so curious about MM's W, so I arranged to join my mom after all. As you might imagine, it was pretty horrible. They weren't all lovey-dovey or anything, but it just made me sick to be in the same room with the 2 of them. Yeah, yeah, I know--DUH! I don't know what I was thinking and now I totally regret it. Anyway, I haven't heard from him since and now I'm really worried that he'll think I was stalking him. I just sent an email saying that I hoped my presence didn't upset him, but I would be willing to bet that he won't be too terribly understanding. Ugghh...if anyone has any kind words or suggestions on what to do next, I'd love to hear them. Thanks a bunch!
~notso
By the way, shouldn't there be a panic emoticon?
~notso
By the way, shouldn't there be a panic emoticon?

My SO has a two hour commute to our place of business, so I don't have an opportunity to see his g/f but I've answered the phone when she's called. She's got a beautiful, sexy voice, dammit, lol! And if I'm in his office and not fast enough leaving (to give them privacy) and I hear him talking to her, my stomach ties up in knots because he's using the same loving, caressing voice with her that he does with me.
And what I do is I tend to forget, sometimes, that we're more than friends, now, so when he mentions he did something or went somewhere, I'll press further and, of course, he has to spill that it was with her. Or worse yet, omg this happened just a few weeks ago. He's got a trick knee that used to bother him a *lot* when things were good with her. I worked for him then, we were buddies, so I always teased him that I knew when he got some good nookie by whether he was limping when he came to work. Well, his knee has been *just fine* these last nine months. Until a few weeks ago. He came hobbling in, doing his best to hide it, and I, innocently, asked if he was okay and was there anything I could do for him, lol. He got this strange look on his face, the lightbulb went on over my head and we had kind of a crappy day together. I was all moody, he was bending over backwards to make it up to me.
We're better off not letting 'reality' intrude into our time together, don't you think? Try not to think of them. For heaven's sake DON'T do that again. Let that be a private corner of his world and his heart. Enjoy what the two of you have for what it is.
Lucky
Edited 2/16/2004 11:43:02 AM ET by luckyme814
Edited 2/16/2004 11:45:32 AM ET by luckyme814
~nutso
i am glad it worked out for you too!
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