Odd question...re: kids

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Odd question...re: kids
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Tue, 05-11-2010 - 5:58pm

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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 7:57am
Hmmm... you noticed that he's keeping RL stuff out of it, so maybe it's that. Or maybe hearing about your kids makes him feel guilty in a way that hearing about your H doesn't. Because kids are all innocent, maybe it just makes him uncomfortable to think that your R with him could end up hurting them, so he'd rather not talk about them or even be reminded they exist. Dunno... I wouldn't take it personally or get upset, he might not even realize himself that he's doing it, it could be subconscious.

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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 8:13pm

Thanks, Lexi. I think you're right...It doesn't really bother me, I just couldn't quite decide if that was a "bad sign"... IDK...the A is an escape for both of us. I have to wonder, too: When we split for three months, I KNOW it was killing me not knowing how his kids were...I grew to care about them a lot...maybe he felt the same and is guarding himself a little. We were VERY involved in each others' kid issues and helping each other get through. (Teen stuff that sends us ALL for a loop)


It's strange...even though I came from divorced parents and grew up with step-parents who I ADORE...they were so GOOD to me...I always thought I couldn't possibly care for someone else's children like that. Now I see it so differently...his kids are his life, and because he loves them so much, I love them, too :)


YIKES...I SO KNOW I'm potentially setting myself up for some SERIOUS heartbreak...sigh :)