oh boy! I don't know what's up!

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Registered: 03-05-2004
oh boy! I don't know what's up!
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 5:40pm
I am a mess for sure. Something has happened and it can't be good. my mm has always been on time when he said he would be with me. His wife is leaving him in 2 months and he recently lost his job because of cut backs in the company. He needs me and I need him. I can't stand this thinking that he could of died or something. wish he could at least get to a damn phone and call me!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 5:43pm
Well honey, it sometimes that they got "caught" somewhere or they had be in a meeting or something. I don't know much about all this, I am not a man, but I am used to my OM not answering my calls/emails right away. Hang in there, hun.


Edited 3/8/2004 5:46:04 PM ET by julietsfate
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 5:51pm
I have been with him for a year now and he is just the most considerate man I have ever met. He would call and tell me he couldn't come. It is just the way he is. I love him so much. this is way out of line for him. I am worried about him. He has been through so much lately.
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 6:02pm
I am sorry sweetie. I didn;t mean to brush of your worries like that. If he is the type who calls back, I am sure he will call you as soon as he can. Please don't worry, he'll call you.
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 6:36pm
thanks for your support. I have no one. My daughter that lives with me is 17 and she gets upset with me. telling me I am waisting my life away for my mm. I just can't even think about finding someone else. I truely love this man. I was married to an abuser for 25 years. divorced 2 years now. no parents or grandparents alive and no family. three kids ,2 married with their own families and then my 17 year old who will be off to college next year. sooooooooo lonely. life has been hard.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 8:49am
XXX have you heard from him yet? Give us an update. I know how you think. My OM is very considerate too and would never just not show up or call. When I can't get a hold of him I start to get scared that something has happened to him. LET US KNOW!!
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 3:02pm
I don't understand what is going on. He has been a mess and told me he doesn't want the kids to think the divorce is because of another women and half said even though... and I INTERUPTED HIM. I really don't feel this can be over after a year of being with him faithfully and no good bye. I tried to call his cellphone and there was no answer. No voice mail nothing. I am so worried. I wish he would have just said , Baby I NEED SOME TIME TO GET it TOGETHER. Why do you think he would just not have contact with me. My daughter put her number in his cell phone and his W had it last week for a day and pushed the damn call button and my daugher answered her cell and they hung up. then my daughter called him back thinking he called and it was his daughter who answered. Then my daughter hung up. When he came over last monday my daughter took her number out of his phone. I just think this is all to weird. I need an explaination. I know he is keeping me on the back burner because we even talked about that. Do you think he could be going through some kind of stuff with his W.? Do you think he will ever call me again. God my heart , mind and body are all acheing for some kind of contact. I need to know why he is doing this. I want to be there for him. He has told me so many times he doesn't want to hurt me. Maybe he is trying to shield me from all the crap he is going through. Once about three weeks ago he told me he needed to get through all this stuff first . But never first before what? So I was left guessing again. He knows I love him. He loves me. His wife knows about me being his best friend and he has even called his kids from my house. Man, This is just to weird.
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 3:55pm
I finally got throught to his voice mail. I told him not to do this to me..that I need to know what is going on! and that I love him. maybe he will call me back. I hope so.
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 4:05pm
Did his W find out?

If she did maybe he is in the hot seat!

I know it is hard to just wait, but give him time, I'm sure he'll fill you in as soon as he can.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 4:07pm
XXX,I'm sure you will hear back from him when he can. Its hard going thru a D (BTDT). Just give him the time he needs, you know if he loves you, you WILL see/hear from him again.

Don't get yourself all upset. He's probably having an upsetting time himself. You need to be calm and take care of yourself during this.

Just try to keep positive thoughts in your mind, and when you do hear from him, just let him know you're there for him.

Just breath!! You'll make it !!

Dusty

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 4:13pm
I know how you feel...I know how hard it is not to hear from my MM when time goes by. But, I always hear from him eventually and he always has a legitimate reason. I don't doubt that he cares for me. You shouldn't doubt that your MM cares for you. If he is half as considerate and wonderful as you say he is, I'm sure he'll have a reason why he's not called. Try not to stress too much....BTW, how long has it been since you last heard from him?

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