oh boy! I don't know what's up!

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Registered: 03-05-2004
oh boy! I don't know what's up!
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 5:40pm
I am a mess for sure. Something has happened and it can't be good. my mm has always been on time when he said he would be with me. His wife is leaving him in 2 months and he recently lost his job because of cut backs in the company. He needs me and I need him. I can't stand this thinking that he could of died or something. wish he could at least get to a damn phone and call me!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 4:15pm
trouble, I know you are aching to get a response from him and anything I say in not going to be enough but I'll try it again anyway. Hang in there. I am sure he will call he can get to it - maybe his waiting for the right time - for all of it to die down. Good Luck!
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Registered: 03-05-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 5:15pm
I know it has been 8 days today and that it has never been this long with nc. He was with me everyday at work but now that he no longer works there it has been very hard for me. I don't even like to go to work anymore. Do you think he actually misses me everyday too. He tells me he does. I just need to know if he is alright. We were friends for a year before we ever started the affair. There is no way that he would just think he is going to dissolve into thin air. Not without a good bye! we were the best of friends for a year and now have been lovers for another year. This is just so strange. something big must have happened.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 7:17pm

XXX... is there anyone else that would know MM personally??? you said you worked together... maybe he had friends within the same company... someone you could ask to simply say do you know how so and so is going... you know just in a casual conversation???


I can't say anything that would make things any easier for you... because if that were me in the same situation I know I would be going out of my mind... as MM always lets me know ASAP if something is happening and he can't get in touch... he does find a way to send me a quick message so I don't worry.


Hang in there hon... hope you find something out soon enough.


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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 4:28pm
you just never know...

I thought he would never do this to me. I asked his friend at work if he had seen him. HE SAID THEY HAD BEEN FISHING AND CUTTING WOOD ALOMOST EVERYDAY!. I can't believe this. He was never like this until he knew his life was falling apart.. Now my granddaughters kidneys are failing and we don't know wether we will lose her in the future or not and where is my only friend??? God I am mad. I thought he was so much different. how could he be something I didn't think he was??? I love him but what is the problem???
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 4:39pm
Maybe he is trying not to make the wife get suspicious. If he fishes and cuts wood with a buddy, that is not so harmless, see what I mean. Meanwhile, try to get yourself together. Sorry about your granddaugther's health problems. That must be really hard to deal with, esp someone so young.
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Registered: 03-05-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 4:50pm
He called me. His wife has taken over the cell phone so he couldn't get my messages. He feels so bad about everything. She is not helping him with the bills and she is leaving him soon. He told me not to call the cell phone anymore . She has been beating him up over it. He is so hateful towards her. He never expressed this before. He says he really needs to get things together and that he doesn't want to put me in the middle of all the crap. He told me he was sorry for not calling me. I told him not to just abandon me. I could not take that. I told him to just tell me if he doesn't want me anymore. He said that was not even it. I am glad he called. Maybe I should just stay out of the way for awhile.

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