Oh, no here we go....

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Oh, no here we go....
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Wed, 04-08-2009 - 3:07pm

If you haven't seen my intro it's under the "vent" section of this forum.

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 3:36pm

It's just like when you're dying to say something and it takes all your will power to bite your tongue.

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Registered: 07-03-2007
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 3:58pm
I agree with my good friend Btrue! (Psst hey girl miss you!). No outside forces are at work , that is just they way the universe works sometimes. Temptations are out in our face when we are least inclined to deny them. What you really need to do is look deep down inside and be real honset with yourself. You say you do not want this to happen but is that the real answer??? Believe me I understand all those feelings of how no this is not what I want and then wham you find yourself in an A. While dealing with him maybe play the picture in your head what would happen if you got caught. But you will ultimately do what it is you want to. Stay strong and please keep us updated.


 

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 4:04pm

Hi Kat,

your posts give me the impression that you think it's 'bigger than both of us' and 'inevitable'. Which is never the case. A's happen because both people make a conscious decision to be in one. No one can force you to do anything you're not interested in doing... right?

If you don't want it to happen, then act normally and if he makes a move just say you're not interested in an extra marital fling. Don't flirt with him. Don't look at him in the eyes for any extended period of time. Keep the meeting focused on your DD and tell him you need to leave quickly because your DH is waiting for you. He'll get the message.

good luck,

trixie



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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 12:47pm
Ok, so tried to post last night but dh was home earlier than usual.
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 1:44pm
I see red flags galore, but you aren't in a place to hear about them. So, just be careful.
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~Shadowz
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Registered: 09-28-2006
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 2:09pm

Kat,


Hi.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 3:23pm
Well, I sent him an email-a very plain email.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2009
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 3:41pm

Please know that I do not want this A to happen...


We were only trying to help you with the angle you gave us.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2006
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 4:24pm

Kat,


Hi.


My guess is that you came to this site to commiserate with others who are in that "giddy" stage.

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 4:34pm

"I was really looking for others that are where I am now...that know how these feelings overwhlem you while you're living it.."

Kat, we all know what those feeling are like and how they can overwhelm you...we also know how it can turn your life into a train wreck. You DID state you didn't want an A to happen. I think you got very nice, thoughtful replies. If you expect a bunch of cheerleaders, you've come to the wrong site.

As someone who is also in the medical field....MD's (if that's what you were alluding to) are the WORST. You mentioned how you felt the office staff noticed it...well, perhaps they have witnessed this before. Be careful.

"If I'm just going to get preached at, I'll just not post."

Kat, again I really don't think you were preached to. I would call it "warned". Those of us reading your posts can spot the red flags very easily.

Take care.

(probably shouldn't have made that blanket statement about MD's...sorry)

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