Oh no! Mini D-Day! What do I do?
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| Mon, 01-05-2009 - 5:42pm |
I just decided to start posting here yesterday and here it was just in time for a partial discovery! EAP and H are doing on a road trip this evening. They made a stop about 20 minutes ago. EAP got out of the car; H decided to stay in the car and snoop through EAP's cell phone. Although he often reminds me to erase my messages, he doesn't seem to take his own advice.
H called. He didn't sound as angry as I suspect he would if everything we had texted each other in the past few days was there. I'm not sure what will happen when he comes home, though. He just said that his friend seems to flirt with me more than he would like and he's a little disappointed that I didn't tell him about it. I asked him if he was angry at me and he said no. He might just be saying that so that he can jump on me when he gets home. I told him I never really considered that his friend was flirting but just that was part of his general personality.
He said he wasn't going to tell EAP what he found because he doesn't want to admit to how he found it. I'm so anxious! I'm an awful liar! I don't know when I'm going to say or do when he gets home. I wish I knew just what he found. I asked him what about the things he said upset him (praying that he would give me exact quotes) and he just said that he's reading over our conversations now and there is a lot that he doesn't like.

In your first post you mentioned that your H had been unfaithful and that you turned to EAP for emotional support - which since you said he is a
He might just be playing you....if he won't give specifics of what he read, then he might
be making it up to see what info you will give up....
I must and will tell him next time we talk that he MUST change my name on his "contacts" list. I have a very bad feeling about this.
I don’t think that H was bluffing. I know that he’s a snoop and I’ve also seen AP’s cell phone and know that he does not always delete all of our conversations. I think he might delete the racier things, though. I imagine that was the case. H did not get home until very, very late last night and he seemed in an ok mood. He didn’t mention anything more about the messages he saw. I suspect we’ll talk about it tonight but if he was really mad (saw anything really good), I don’t think he would be able to wait to jump on me about their content.
Now I’m debating telling OM about what happened. Do I warn him about what happened and tell him to be more careful and then risk him getting mad and saying something to H? Or do I say nothing to OM and just try to keep the texting to a minimum?
Regardless, I’d say that I got off super easy yesterday. I hope that doesn’t change today.