OK Girls - What do you think
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OK Girls - What do you think
| Fri, 08-29-2003 - 1:21pm |
Ok Girls
Joe called me yesterday he is out of town, and I had left a message on his A-machine that if he checked in for messages to please call me - about a committee we sit on together.
Well he called me back - and we talked about the committee stuff, and then kind of out of the blue he said "I want a future" I said WHAT? and he goes you know past, presten, future - OK Girls - what should I make of this?
I'm married and he is single. When I tryed to pin him down on just what he meant he changed the subject. I'm on pins and needles. One part of me looks like a cat that ate the carnary and the other part is like OH sh**!!
I love him and I don't want to hurt him. But there is no way out of my marriage - I don't want to hurt H either - HELP!!!
Thanks for being here girls just venting for the most part but would love to here from some of you that have been here
EJ

I don't know you but if you read my post you will see that you should be very careful about making any decisions. At this point, if OM wants a future you will have to hurt someone. You will have to leave someone. That tore me up. I felt forced to make a decision that I wasn't ready to make and now I am paying the price. But you know that by getting involved with another man, we knew this day might come. I feel for you. I felt that because I had promised MM I would be there for him, I had to follow thru. Becasue DH caused me so much pain over the years I felt I owed more to MM than DH. Think about what and whom you really want. Think about what your life would be like without your marriage. What would you do with it? Are there things you want to do that by being in this marriage you can't? Are you with your OM for fun or do you love him? Actually though it sounds harsh, its easier for you if its just for fun. Be honest with yourself and with OM.
Ivy
I have *not* been there, at least not in a really long time... but it seems to me you won't know what he means until you ask him. Does he want a future w/you or does he want to move on to his "own" future?
More importantly, what do you want?
Good luck and keep us posted!
lily