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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 11:45am
So I thought I'd ramble on a bit, I hope you Goddesses don't mind! Ok, I'm 44 and my MM will be 54 next month. We’ve been friends for about 5 years and at this for about a year. MM along with his W, my H and me run in the same social circle:):) It's funny, it all started with a joke that I sent out to my distribution list via email. It's weird; I never thought that I would be doing this. I’ve been married for 11 years. My H is truly a wonderful person, just not interested in sex. We've had this problem for many years and I thought of having an affair many times but just couldn’t bring myself to do it. Well, I finally took the plunge! Oh and I'm glad I did! MM and I have become even better friends. There is not a day that goes by that we don't at least talk. I read some of the post on this board and I feel for some of you, that are having a difficult time with you're EMA's. I have no idea why, but I feel the need to say this to my fellow women of this board. We all make decisions in our lives, some of them are good and some are not. When we embark on something such as an EMA, we are automatically putting ourselves at risk of heartache. I think that's it's very important to keep things in perspective. In all relationships the up most importance is Respect! If you can't have respect for one another and their responsibilities to the other aspects of their lives it's not going to turn out good. I treat this as a friendship more than anything. It doesn’t happen very often but if MM says he's going to call and doesn't I don't get my panties in all bunched up. Now, as far as these men that don't contact you for weeks or even months. I think their scum! Everyone has a few minutes to pick up a phone. Don't let them tell you how much they love you and their going to leave their wives. Trust me their after one thing! Men, I think more than woman will tell you what ever you want to hear. Why do women constantly put our hearts at risk? Relationships (no matter what kind) shouldn't hurt. Once my MM said something the bothered me. Me being the direct person that I am told him about it right away and let him know I wasn't going to take that crap. He apologized and it's never happened again. I guess what I’m trying to say is be honest with them. If you don't like what's happening tell them. If they don't like it Screw’EM. You know, I’m really sorry! I didn't mean to get on my soapbox just some observations I’ve noticed by reading some of the post lately. I truly do wish you all the luck in the world. NMR

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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 1:18pm
You'll get to that opening up part! You know, I had no plans to fall in love and I haven't. Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly but I can't say that I'm in love with him. I"ve always been pretty good about keeping my feeling in tact. This started out as SeX, SEX, SEx, only! it's a beautiful thing that we have evolved into a Great friendship. Good luck to you! NMR
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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 1:31pm
i've never been to vegas, have to fly because i'm on the east coast, but cannot wait! MM's been there many times and wanted me to stay at the luxor or venetian, but we picked bally's because it was in the middle of the strip and we got a great deal.

and i can taste the stolirazzy cosmo, yummmm! i'll use your suggestion for delmonico's. please send more after you get back. we have 5 nights there!

girl i pray every day that no one dies because of my A -- especially me! i'm leaving town if anything come to light about it.

you have a great time in vegas with your girls! i'm sooo jealous, but i'm going away next week to the beach with my girls so it's all good here!

have fun, and win some $$,

gurl

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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 1:55pm
Suggestion! Make all dinner reservation now for the around the New Year Holiday. Especially, Delmonico's, try the Chateaubriand, it's to die for! My H and I have traveled all over the world and besides the Jules Vern in Paris, Delmonico's is our second favorite. Bally's is great, has lots of Character and history. When driving across country to move to California 15 years ago I stayed at Bally's. I love hanging out in Ceasar's (lots of eye candy) and Treasure Island. Not as many kids! Not there that is anything wrong with kids. Oh and the bar in the Rio on the top floor is great too. I can drive there from LA so I go pretty often. Hope you have fun at the beach next week. NMR
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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:04pm
i'm writing all your suggestions into my pda right now. and i will make reservations next week at delmonico's and the chateau too. keep 'em coming girl! where should we go for new year's eve?? i'm sure all the hotels will have huge parties, but where do you think would be the most fun. we love to dance, any music except rap. and we want to dress up too.

what shows?? "O" has been suggested. but i have no idea what else. i've been on tons of websites including lasvegas.com but i can't go by a two-line description.

the rio sounds great, want to see the bellagio water fountains, old vegas and definitely treasure island.

oh, i can't wait!!

thanks soooo much for everything,

gurl

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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:15pm
Glad to help:) I"m not certain about the clubs anymore. When I was there for the bar convention in March. A bunch of us went to the Rio. They had a band there that was mostly 70's. There is one place that is horrible, it's the Curve in the Alladin. A huge ripe off! YUCK, YUCK!I really love the little lounges with-in the resorts for hanging out. I'll check with my girl friend that lives there and get some pointers from her as to the best party for New Years. I'll ask her about the shows, too. She goes to them all the time. I go there to drink and gamble!Teeheehee..... NMR
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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:19pm
Oh, now that I think of it. I have heard that Bikini's is a lot of fun. I think it's rather young but HEY, I'm not opposed to getting up and dancing on the bar. NMR
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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:33pm
i'm going for all that stuff AND the grand canyon too!

let me know what your girlfriend says next week. i'm off on monday, so i'll be online tuesday.

see ya,

gurl

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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:33pm
Charlotte

I feel your pain. I NEVER thought another man could occupy my thought life the way MM does. I really hate this part of our R. I think I've got it really bad because I just saw him yesterday, spoke w/him yesterday, and spent time w/him yesterday and I miss him for being out today! I'm turning into a woman I don't like.

Like you, I'm afraid to open up completely to MM. I just have trust issues w/men. I really don't want to get hurt by one ever again. My H hurt me deeply, and if I can't trust him, what man can I trust besides my own Dad? But I do want to be able to share myself completely w/someone again. Unfortunately it still looks like I can't do that with DH. That's why I've gone so far w/MM. I have that need and he's offered to fill that need after I've grown to respect him and love him and look up to him.

What's a girl to do? He knows how I feel too.

What you said about the sex is right on the money too. Which is why I'm glad MM & I have NOT consummated our R yet. He says if and when we do he's afraid he'll be looking for me w/a flashlight in the daytime. That man is too funny.

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Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:51pm
Hi Gurl,

Cool! I'll let you know on Tuesday. I'm leaving for the weekend. Have a good one!NMR

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