Ok so shes gone...
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Ok so shes gone...
| Sun, 05-30-2004 - 1:12pm |
Ok OW is officially gone now for 3 months. Shes now thousands of miles away and we probably will only get to talk for a few minutes once a week if were lucky. And since shes been gone all i want to do is sleep. I find myself up to 3 or 4 am then sleeping till 2 or 3 in the afternoon. I feel like ive lost my best friend and my lover. W is starting to ask why im sleeping so much and the only answer i can give her is im tired.Any ideas on what to do with myslef for the summer?i knew not being able to see my OW was going to be tough but wow this is tougher than i expected.i figured id vent and whine here as oppsed to sending her one of those emails i know id regret later. Any input would be appriciated.
-BIG-
-BIG-

I think the first few days will be the hardest. You will slowly come out of it though and resume your normal routine. That routine will keep you busier than you think I'm sure. Enjoy being outside, say yes to invitations you might normally say no to, keep your schedule as full as possible. Take this an opportunity to refamiliarize youself with your feelings and goals and wants in life-sometimes affairs get us off track.
Before you know it, you will counting down the short weeks until you see her again. I know nothing I can say will make you miss her less, I just wish you luck!
THanks for your resposne and while no its doesnt make me miss her less reading your post does help. Just knowing someone else out there cares helps right now. Thats why i find so much comfort in this board. As anywhere else i would be judged horribly for my feelings. Just wanted to say thanks littleone and your absolutely right i need to stay busy. Now just finding things to be busy with lol. W is just really getting on my nerves more these days as i dont have OW to confide in a nd share my feelings. I always find myself asking the same question over and over to myself...."why does this have to be soo hard?" It was easier when i had given up on love. Anwyas theres somemore ranting but thanks again littleone!
I'm sorry about that...I know it's hard. I have problems even with a couple of weeks without OM because I don't have too many friends in this town, most women my age have kids and can't get out. Online friends help a little.
The sleeping-too-much thing can be a symptom of depression. You can have depression without actually feeling unhappy (apart from missing OW). Maybe you could mention it to your doc? I'm not the kind of person who thinks everyone needs to be medicated, but, he/she may have ideas.
One weird thing I have done that has actually made me feel better is making a point of talking to strangers. My OM has told several of his male friends about our A, because he trusts them. I have told nobody, because I don't really feel I have anyone I could trust with that kind of info. My closest friend is quite religious, she would judge me. So what I have done, on two occasions, is talked about the A with a stranger. Once, a guy I sat beside on a bus, and once, another guy I met at a seminar. I knew I would never see these people again but they seemed like really nice people so, I just told them the story. In both cases, they listened pretty non-judgmentally, and one of them had some really interesting insights about the whole thing. It seemed to make me feel less lonely for some reason, to have someone to explain it to. You have to be careful who you talk to, obviously. Especially if you live in a small town. I live in a large city.
Anyway, hugs to you and just cope with it day by day.
barefootgirl