That old familiar spark

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Registered: 05-08-2003
That old familiar spark
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Sun, 04-04-2004 - 10:55am
My 5 month affair ended 2 months ago. He is the one that ended it due to a lot of stress at his full time job, home, etc.

He said he wanted to remain friends because he felt like he could talk to me about anything. The no contact is impossible unless I quit my job or he quits working there on a weekly basis. It is a p.t. job for him once a week.

The first several weeks after the affair ended was a little awkward for the both of us.We continued to have conversation within a group, but never got alone together and talked privately.

I have seen changes in him the last 5 wks or so.

That look in his eyes is back!!!!!!!!!

The saying that "the eyes say it all", well,I guess it is true, what I mean by that is I catch him looking at me and his eyes get all glazed and his cheeks get flushed. I noticed it when we were in the middle of our affair, and it is back.

He came over to my desk this week and sat down and started talking to me, and there was the look.

I have come so close to asking him if he has thought about starting the affair again, but in a way I am afraid of being rejected, but on the other hand, I don't want to sit by and not let him know that I want it too.

Another co-worker knows about the affair and has told me that he thinks he knows both of us well enough to know that we are both thinking the same thing, and that we should talk about it.

We are both married and agreed from the start that we would not get emotional, we would just keep it physical. Neither of us plan on leaving our spouses. There is just this incredible physical attraction between us.

I would hate to think that he is waiting for me to bring the subject up and if I don't

I would miss the opportunity. It was so amazing between us, so intense and passionate.

Any one have any advice???

I don't think that look can be mistaken, I know it is lust, but I know what it means!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 6:23pm
That spark is sooooo hard to resist, isn't it?? I was reading your post and it made me remember some song that I have heard before. Here goes...

Hello by Wilkinsons

Hello boy, it's been a while

Guess you'll be glad to know

That I've learned how

To laugh and smile

Getting over you was slow

Then say old lovers

Can be good friends

But I never thought

I'd really see you again

I'd never see you again

I go crazy, you know

When I look in your eyes

I still go crazy

No my heart just can't hide

That old feeling inside

Way deep down inside

Oh baby

You know

When I look in your eyes

I go crazy

You say she satisfies your mind

Tells you all of her dreams

I know how much

That means to you

I realize that I was blind

Just when I thought

I was over you

I see your face

And it just ain't true

You know it just ain't true

I go crazy, you know

When I look in your eyes

I still go crazy

No my heart just can't hide

That old feeling inside

Way deep down inside

Oh baby

You know

When I look in your eyes

I go crazy