old timer back again!!

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Registered: 07-21-2003
old timer back again!!
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:49pm
Hi everyone.. I've been in an affair with a mm for a year now. I'm married 5 yrs. and mm married for 1 yr. and 5 mo. I have a 4 yr. old and he has none. We've been having a sexual r no emotions. We met at work and saw each other every weekend, till about 4 mo ago when he got fired from his job. when he got fired, 2 mo past till he contacted me to get together again. I didn't want to call his house due to his wife. I didn't want to keep hanging up on her either..lol When he contacted me, he gave me his cell phone #, which was awesome, but now he's saying his wife knows the code to his voice mail, and I can't call him. He doesn't call me all the time. We only call each other when we want to get together for sex, but I have my needs too!! I want to call him so bad, but I don't want him to get mad at me for calling. What should I do? Would you call? gets me so frusterated. Seems like he's the only one that matters and his needs not mine!!

Thanks for listening.. Jeanbean..

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:54pm
I would casually call him to "check-in" and say "hello" Can you block your number so he or his W doesn't know whose calling??

How did people have A before cell-phones? It's the only way MM and I communicate typically! Although...be careful! My brother caught his ex-W this way!!!!

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Registered: 02-17-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:12pm
Here's a thought! Can't he just change his security code to his cell phone? Soxs
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 4:16pm
Sounds pretty one sided to me. Call him. If he gets mad than ask him why it is a double standard?! If he can call you when he wants sex you should be able to call him too!
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:17pm
Maybe a good gift would be a prepaid cell phone for him... cheap enough and it could be a link for both of you.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:12pm

Hi jeanbean and welcome back,


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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:50pm
Thanks everyone for your suggesstions. I did think about having him change his code, but that would look suspicious on the wife.. I know I'm smart like that..LOL.. we are so much smarter than our men..LOL.. having a prepaid phone I never thought about though.. good one.

It seems as though he calls when he wants it, but doesn't care about me and when I want it, and when he does call, he lets 2-3 wks go by!!! AUGH!!!!..