OM complaining about Fiancee' ???
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OM complaining about Fiancee' ???
| Sun, 04-04-2004 - 7:55pm |
Yesterday, I had the rare opportunity to talk to OM on the weekend. However, he spent most of the time complaining about his fiance'. Not sure how to respond, I listened. First and foremost I try to be a friend to OM, and be supportive of him in any way I can. He went on and on about something she did that upset him. I tried to stay neutral, and did a lot of "Um hum-ing" as he was telling the story. I wasn't sure if he was looking for advice, or just to vent. So I didn't really give any advice or offer my opinion other than to say that I understood why he was upset and that I would be upset too if H had acted that way.
Anyway, today I got an e-mail from OM "updating" me on the situation with his fiancee'. Did I need an update? No, not really. I'm not sure why he felt the need to keep me updated on the situation.
My question is this: Do any of your OM/MM's complain about their wives/gf's/fiancee's and if so, how do you respond?
I don't want to chime in and tell him what I *really* think of her, because that would only make me look bad, but on the other hand, I don't want to remain silent, either. Plus, it kind of hurts that he's spending our time talking about her. Any advice/support would be greatly appreciated!
:)
Circe

Hi Circe,
MM and I discuss everything... and that includes our spouses... many a time it's been me that will vent to MM about what DH might do... but there a plenty of times that MM will vent to me as well.
More often than not... it's just that... a
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First and foremost we are friends, and I have to remember that. It makes me feel good that he can confide in me about his life. I basically just try to be a shoulder for him to lean on.
I guess that is my advice. Listen and be a caring friend. What else can we do??
Love
:)
Circe