OM & Pre-Cana

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Registered: 01-02-2004
OM & Pre-Cana
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:43pm
Well, I just returned from a week and a half long vacation. Had minimal contact with OM during this time, except for a few e-mails and text messages. Today, I went to OM's place to hang out and tell him about my trip. We talked, cuddled a bit, and fooled around a little, but didn't have sex. As I was about to leave, OM asks, "When do you think we'll have this out of our system?" Confused, I asked him what he meant.

He went on to explain that he wondered when we would have the physical part of our relationship "out of our systems" and just be friends. Still confused, I asked him why he was asking this of me now.

He explained that he is going to a pre-cana retreat this weekend with his fiancee' in preparation for their wedding next year and that he thought the pre-cana experience might mean the end of the physical part of our relationship. I didn't know what to say. I am not Catholic, so I don't really know what is involved, although I have friends who have gone on these retreats.

I guess I'm kind of confused, and not sure what to do. On one hand, I respect his religion and everything, but there is a part of me (maybe a mean selfish part) that doesn't see what that has to do with us, and feels hurt that he said this.

Anyone have any words of advice/support? I won't talk to OM again until at least Sunday. He is out of town until Friday, then he leaves Friday night to go on the retreat.

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Registered: 03-24-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:45pm
ok..understood... and you did have one thing wrong there though... There is only one sin that is grounds for divorce, and that is adultery.

sujata

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 3:29pm
LOL.

Well, I guess I just illustrated that the eye sees but the mind perceives. Somewhere in the back of my mind I remember reading that... selective memory, anyone?

rain

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