Omahamm Good Luck Today!!!
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Omahamm Good Luck Today!!!
| Sat, 05-08-2004 - 9:46am |
Hello my friend,
I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you today, and the difficult task that you are facing. I hope everything works out for the best, as I'm sure it will.
You have not entered into this new phase of your life without serious thought, and your heart is in the right place. I admire you for that!
Your honesty with yourself, and the people around you, can only result in a life of contentment and fulfillment, something that I myself am striving for. Your example has provided me with much strength and the reassurance that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Take care
Red

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I want to thank you to those who support myself and omaha, but I'd also like to say that I don't appreciate being "attacked" as you all call it. Indeed what I said about his W was rude, but then again I don't care for her... AT ALL. It's not that she is his W but the ways and things she's done in the past to make Omaha, feel and think the things he has. Some of you know the issues and some of you don't. That doesn't really matter. What I said was rude, but I don't take it back. Bottom line on that is she's hurt him which hurts me.
I honestly can still relate to the parent matter... seeing as how I still live with my parents. For as long as I can remember, I've always loved my father more than my mother. That is even more apparent now that I'm about to move out. Both of my parents know it, and the feelings are mutual. My mother has said to me repeated times and she "just doesn't get me" and that she "loves my brother more than me" so I guess when you've got a role model like that... you are not on the same page as someone saying that, all children love each parent equally. Because for me, that's not true.
And again I do not know Omaha's W, though i'm sure i'll get many encounters with her (something i'm not looking forward to) and i'll have to bite my tongue and act civil. The hardest thing will be knowing she's hurt him the way she has... I don't deal with that well because it hurts me too. And I know Omaha will come back with saying that she's not a bad person. I agree with that as well... I, in her case, tend to focus on the bad side, because that's what I remember.
And I cannot relate to being a parent, and I know it's hard to fathom that your kid may favor one parent over the other.
I'm just going to have to "watch what I say" from now on, because I don't enjoy being told that what i'm saying is out of line. Sorry if I offended anyone.
IS
(this "being attacked" thing tends to happen every time I've posted here, so I'm considering not posting anymore. I don't need to have the added stress that strangers think what I think is wrong. it upsets me too much...)
And since you've used my own words, I will assume that you were responding to me.
I have had the wonderful opportunity of "chatting" with Omahamm and I exclusively asked him if what I posted was offending. I did not intend it that way in the least.
I am sorry IS that you have mother, that would be so blatent in saying "she loves your brother more than you" I cannot imagine the hurt you must feel from that. And although I have two daughters, and I may favour one above the other (for reasons I cannot explain), I would never, ever, say that out loud.
I do feel your protectiveness towards Omahamm. And, I do understnad you dislike towards his wife. I was my husband's OW at one time (20 years ago). I do not like his xW, I do not like the way he was treated by her, and I do not agree with her views or opinions.
The only reason for my post, was to protect you, not to attack you!!
Please accept the benefit of experience without becoming offended.
Take care and know that I'm on your side
Red
I know there are lots of people who don't like to see happy couples like you and omaha. All their insecutities in their personal life pours into their posts. Just consider it as their jealousy talking when they aim a bad post at you. Of course, I was not talking about Red, she is a good person. She just felt the need to correct your issues with omaha's W/children. I am sure she want the best for you and omaha. Don't take her heart. She is a sweetheart.
Like NRY said we do love to see you from time to time here and on the chat. I have personally beneifitted from your posts, believe it or not. I lost all my hope if love and relationships, but when I see omaha and you go back and forth on this board - it reminds me that true love does exist even on an affair board... LOL Please don't go away. We love your posts here.
Good Luck!
juliet (nomore)
Anyway, at this point I hope we can put all of this behind us. Red, NRY and Juliet, all of you have been supportive of me and offered me kind words when I was feeling down. I hope the three of you can do the same for IS. This is hard enough for her and she shouldn't have to be on the defensive.
And IS, you know you have all my love and support. You mean the world to me and I have nothing but admiration and respect for you in how you are handling all of this. I hope you do come back to the board from time to time because I do believe there are good people here and Red, NRY and Juliet are three of them. But the most important thing to me is that you know how much I appreciate you. I adore you and I know that we were meant to spend our lives together. And once we get through these tough times, I know that all of this will get a little easier each day. I love you.
I certainly did not want what started as a thread to offer "a friend" some support on a difficult day, to turn into this!!!
Take care
Red
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