OMG, y'all, I may have actually grown up

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Registered: 05-24-2003
OMG, y'all, I may have actually grown up
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 9:50pm
SO is off today and tomorrow and my schedule at work is screwy because of some classes that I'm taking, so I won't actually be in the office until Saturday to see him. He's pulling late duty Wed and Thurs, so he can't come over after work (we work nights). BUT, I do live close to work and I will be home during his 'breakfast' hour. So I asked him to come over Wednesday (his first day back), just to say hi and see each other, that's all. No underlying motive. Friday is usually 'our' day, because I'm off work, the kids are in school, and he doesn't have to work late, so he comes over for a little while before heading home (he lives 2 hours away. I know, I know, horrible commute!!)

Here's the thing....his g/f is having routine, but fairly painful surgery on Wednesday. Since he has to work, her son is taking her to and from the hospital and will stay with her until SO gets home. As I mentioned, I had asked him to come over on his breakfast break Wednesday, since I won't have the kids at that hour (like I do on Thursdays). Well, instantly I regretted asking. It seemed so selfish. So today I wrote him an email and told him not to come over Wednesday and not to worry about calling or coming over until Saturday. That he needed to focus on her right now and that I would see him this weekend like always.

Wasn't that mature of me?? The wierd thing??? I meant every word of it!! I think I may be growing up and learning to think about others instead of myself!!!!!!

Lucky

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:01pm

Hey Lucky,


and while you may feel down about it... don't ya just feel good about yourself!? :)


I was recently in the similar circumstances with MM... getting together lately has just been nightmare and we'd finally planned a little time at his place while his wife was out.

Sweet
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