Well, I did not go to OM's surprise party on Saturday night, and glad I did not. Got few e-mails today, in one he told me about the party. Apparently he ruined the surprise for himself, because he was not feeling well and wanted to stay home. His friend that was supposed to get him out of the house couldn't get him off the couch. Finally, the friend had to basically tell him that his fiancee' had planned this party and he had to leave.
So...I told OM that I was sorry I couldn't make it, that H and I had another party to go to. He said it was OK, that he understood. But for some reason, he said his fiancee told him that I "never called back" to give her a definite answer. This is not true, I did call, twice. Once to give her the names/numbers of a few co-workers and then again to tell her H and I could not make it. It irked me that she said that, but I didn't make a big deal about it. Then, I told OM that his fiancee' got my cell # from his cell #. He already knew, she must have told him.
Now, I guess he feels guilty. He kept saying how "nice" the party was, and how she went through so much trouble to plan it for him, and how he'll never forget it, etc. etc. etc. <>. He was a little bit more distant today than usual, no phone calls or text messages, just e-mails mostly about work stuff. He said they hung out all day yesterday, cleaning up, then watched TV last night and she stayed at his place <>.
I am worried that this will affect our A, and that he won't want to see me anymore because of guilt over the party. Do you think he will want to break off the A or is this just a phase? For now, I am kind of playing it cool, not e-mailing too much, definitely not calling or text messaging. I'm going to see what happens over the next few days or so.