OM's Surprise Party Tonight - Not Going

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Registered: 01-02-2004
OM's Surprise Party Tonight - Not Going
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 12:11pm
Just to summarize my situation, OM's fiancee' called me last week under some questionable circumstances (she got my cell phone # by looking through his cell phone) to #1 invite me to a surprise 30th birthday party she was throwing for him and #2 to ask if I could contact other peopl at our work and let them know about the party as well. After some thought and after reading some good advice from people here, I finally called OM's fiancee' the other day and left a message telling her that H and I could not make it to the party.

We actually do have another party to go to earlier in the evening, but we could have gone if I really wanted to. Here is my dilemma: I feel somewhat bad about not going because OM came to my surprise 30th a few weeks ago. I plan on e-mailing OM tomorrow to tell him that I hope he had a good time at his party, and that I am sorry I couldn't make it.

In all honesty, I just think it would be too weird to be there with his fiancee', family, and friends, and my gut instinct is telling me to stay away.

Am I doing the right thing by *not* going to the party? Should I tell OM about how she got my number, or just keep quiet about it?

Thanks! :)

Circe

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 12:48pm
Hi Circe. I am a firm believer in following your gut feeling. I can understand that you feel bad about not going, but since she did obtain your phone number through a questionable method it is probably for the best if you do not show up.

I also think that OM would probably understand if you explained to him. I would let him know how/where she got the number.

Just my opinion.

NG

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 12:57pm
Thanks for the response NG. I just think it would be too awkward, and to be honest, I don't know how happy OM is going to be about the party - he HATES surprises and told me at my party he was glad that he wasn't getting a surprise party! lol