The "one that got away" is back!!!

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Registered: 07-11-2003
The "one that got away" is back!!!
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Sun, 03-07-2004 - 7:14pm
10 years ago I met this guy that I was crazy about. He was amazing. We dated for a while, but it was never serous. He ended up getting this girl pregnant and married her. We had an affair once shortly after he got married and we decided to end our relationsip. Over the years, I have thought about him so many times. I really missed him. 2 years ago I started dating my recent boyfriend. He is 9 years younger than I am. He broke up with me 2 times because he said he had unresolved feelings for a friend of ours. They dated for a little while and broke up because of her friends. So he claimed he never got closure with her and decided that he needed to do that. Now we are back together, only because she cheated on him. Now I have that one guy from my past that I haven't stopped having feelings for calling me and stuff. He told me that he has thought about me also over the years and he also said that he should have married me. My boyfriend isn't the kind of guy that will marry me or anything like that. I don't know what our future is. He isn't pleasent to be around, grouchy all the time and he puts down everyone and everything...unless it's something he likes. I don't know...I want to spend some time with my old flame, but I know that it won't be anything but an affair, but the sad thing is....I want that too. Sounds terrible, but I can't help it. He just feels like that part of my life that I seem to be missing. He's like that other half of me that makes me complete. I've just wanted this for so long, but I don't know if it is worth everything it will cost me. My boyfriend is a jerk, but he is good to me most of the time. I know if I have an affair or break up with him, he will hate me and I will lose my boyfriend/best friend.

Please help!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 8:13pm
Ok confused...

Read over your post...

these points, especially...

"never serous. He ended up getting this girl pregnant and married her"

"back together, only because she cheated on him"

"My boyfriend isn't the kind of guy that will marry me or anything like that"

"He isn't pleasent to be around, grouchy all the time and he puts down everyone and everything..."

"My boyfriend is a jerk"


My 2 c worth?

Dump the boyfriend...why would you want to stay with a man like that?

As for the old flame? Doesn't sound like a real healthy relationship either...

Take some time off, and find yourself...decide you deserve better...because you do...


=)

~Laurie~