one for the road

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one for the road
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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 2:17am
just to pick the minds on here,

and the more i read the more i see there is some really good people on here...

a few questions...#1 how old are you and the other person?

#2 what was it that drove you to an affair?..lust? love? loneliness? money? power?(do we say MONICA..???)

#3 what would it take for you to end the affair?

#4 do you see your affair as a long term relationship or just "fun while it lasts"?

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 2:34am
me: 28 him: 42

drove us to the affair: me, unhappy marriage, wanting (needing sex), same for him, although i have since left H and he has since decided to stay with W. She knows about me. Our A continues indefinitely.

What would it take for the affair to end: don't think anything could do it right now. Would have to meet man i love more than MM dno't think it's possible. He says nothing wife does will make him end it. Looks like we are stuck with each other :)

LONG, LONG, LONG term. We have been at it nine months.

jen

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 8:49am
Me 42, him 55.

What drove me: well he contacted me first. But I was unhappy, having a sexless marriage.

What would it take to end it? Well I had a bad scare couple of days ago at the Dr.'s office. It was almost an A-ending thing for me. But I've calmed down since and everything is fine.

Our Relationship? Is FWB's. We've been at it over 2 years. We both say we'd like this to continue a long time. I try to take it one day at a time. No thoughts really for anything long term. I don't expect him to leave W, or me to leave H anytime soon.

Dusty
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 9:18am

good morning all you beautiful ladies and handsome gentlemen!!



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Edited 2/17/2004 9:47:46 AM ET by cl-gurlfriend50

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 9:47am
1. I'm 30 MM is too

2. For me it wass loneliness, I had detached myself from H, because He had an A with a friend of mine. I'm not sure why MM entered in to this with me, he says because he has always loved me, but when we talk today I'll ask him for a better answer!!

3. If MM asked me to> Dont see that happening!!

4. Long trem!! I dont see an end to this!!

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 11:23am
1. Me 47 / Him 48

2. My husband has been disabled since '96. I love him, but all that mothering (along with no sex) made me need something else in my life.

3. He would have to stop, or if H found out and was being hurt by it.

4. I'm afraid to even think about how long it will or won't last.. too new. Just taking it minute by minute. But I'm hoping for long-term.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 11:26am
#1 how old are you and the other person? I'm 44 and he's 54

#2 what was it that drove you to an affair?..lust? love? loneliness?

All of the above:)

#3 what would it take for you to end the affair? His W catching us because I would be dead:(

#4 do you see your affair as a long term relationship or just "fun while it lasts"? Never though about it! Who knows what the cards hold for us. I know it's not long term as far as being together as a couple. I had no intensions of leaving my H nor does he plan on leaving his W (and I like it that way).

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 1:13pm
a few questions...#1 how old are you and the other person? I am 34, he is 46

#2 what was it that drove you to an affair?..lust, boredom, he was persistant, one kiss and I was a goner.



#3 what would it take for you to end the affair? I have put up with alot so I should of ended it already but can't do it just yet.... but by force would be if either got caught.


#4 do you see your affair as a long term relationship or just "fun while it lasts"? I can't imagine it being long term cause it is not working out very well so I guess fun while it lasts.

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 5:18pm
Hey everyone :-)

#1 Age: I'm 29, MM is 40

#2 Why A: We had been colleagues and friends for some years (live faaaar apart), attraction from the start, but fell in love after a kiss and then intense emailing for 2 months. Have been married 6,5 years, H is very nice and kind, but it's all a habit.. MM excites me, I need him and he makes me feel good.

#3 End it: We (he) just about ended it little over a month ago b/c his W found out. But after a hot last weekend, it's back on. I don't want to end it, but if I did it would be out of self-protection.

#4 Long term or fun: It's been going on 1 yr 3 months now, I see it as long term. He said a few days ago he would love me forever.

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Registered: 10-13-2003
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 6:20pm

#1 how old are you and the other person?