Oops, think we've been caught, but funny
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Oops, think we've been caught, but funny
| Tue, 12-30-2008 - 6:51pm |
MM and I have been together for over 8 years, we just celebrated our 9th Christmas together, but not yet our 9th anniversary.
At first we tried to keep it on the downlow, but over the years we have gotten a little less careful, neither of us really caring if we get caught or not. We are best friends, and no matter what ever happens, we will remain best friends.
My H died in February, and since then, we have been really out in the open, not trying to hide anything, even though he is still M. We go to lunch, we take my girls out, every week the two

What a nice post, Mom G. Nice to hear about an A thats not all weepy drama. I really relate to your experience except the almost-getting busted part. BTDT, god I don't want to go thru that again!
jana
I originally thought my AP was probably a player. Both of us are M w/Kids. I knew he had cheated on his W before, but he claimed just once. I have since learned a lot about him both from him and another good mutual friend. He's a much better man than I thought- despite the A w/me. He's a great father and I really respect him. We work for the same company, though in different parts of the country and he's good at what he does.
I've come to realize we have a FWB situation more so than an A really. We talked and I am going to see him soon, then again in a few months then whatever we have will have to be put on hold as I am planning to try and get pregnant w/H again this summer. Its weird but both of us have good marriages, we were just so wildly attracted to one another and we gave in. But we both understand where the other is in life and what our relationship is and what we expect from each other. It's amazing. It is something that not a lot of people would understand but I guess I believe there is not just one person for everyone. He and I may never be more than what we are now. We may never be what we are now again after I have another child. I don't know. But I'm fine with that and am just glad to know him as a friend. I think when the physical stops, we'll still talk. After the pregnancy, maybe it will even resume if we are still with the same company. Who knows. Like I said, I am happy to have him in my life now and whatever happens, happens.
Personally, I find the sneaking around and trying to hide things totally exhausting and I can't imagine doing it for 9 years. I don't know your AP's wife or your husband ( sorry for his passing) but I would almost venture to say that they knew/know about it and didnt care or didn't want to face it or deal with it? My AP says his wife ocassionally "suspects" things but that's as far as it goes. I can't believe someone can be that naive..I told him just yesterday that his wife is an "enabler"...she enables him to continue to cheat on her by turning her head the other way. I honestly think she's okay with it just as long as he always comes back home to her, brings home is paycheck every week and doesn't leave her.
Gabby,
I am sure that my H knew, he would make comments. I think that he would rather put up with me having an affair than actually confronting me on it because, like I said, we needed each other financially more than anything. Sometimes we weren't even friends.
MM's W also has made comments, but, since she has had emotional/mental